Post # 1
My honey and I got engaged last weekend while we were on vacation. We just got home this past Saturday. While we were away, we talked about a few things that we would want for the wedding, but didn’t do anything concrete.
Now that I’m home and have seriously started planning, I’m seriously turning into a nutcase. I’m realizing that I won’t be able to get what I want for many reasons. I started crying on my mom today when I realized that a destination wedding was probably out of the question if I wanted certain people there, which is extremely important to me. I was so upset today that I had to reassure Fiance that I wasn’t doubting him, just the whole wedding process.
I think there are just too many decisions to make right now and I’m overwhelmed. Once we decide on a date and venue, I’m hoping the rest will kinda fall place.
Did anyone else have a meltdown shortly after engagement? I’m trying hard to keep things in perspective, but that’s easier said than done
Post # 3
The first major decisions like location and guest list are some of the hardest ones. My fiance went back and forth on what we wanted, and it got very stressful for me. Don’t worry. It does get easier after the basics are taken care of.
Post # 4
Did anyone else have a meltdown shortly after engagement
oh hell yes. i still cant believe the meltdown i had over stationery – robin egg blue or sky blue, and how my then Fiance didnt seem to care which one to pick because to him they were both blue
Post # 5
Thank you so much for the speedy reply!
I think I freaked Fiance out today and he was thinking that I was doubting our relationship and whether we should be getting married. If there’s one thing I’m not doubting, it’s him and my commitment to him! Glad to know that others have found this stage difficult too!
Post # 5
Take a deep breath. Then another. Repeat for about 15 minutes.
Then start planning a wedding with your fiance that reflects the *reality* of your lives, not the glittery dream wedding thing you may have had going. For me, once I started nailing down the specifics of what we *needed*, I was able to start incorporating what I/we *wanted*. But reality should come first.
Well, breathing should come first. Breathe. And again.
Post # 6
When it gets to be too much, just take a week off or so from planning. Emjoy being engaged. When you feel calmer, you can make some rational decisions. I kmow often it’s when I stop thnking about things so much that I gt those lightbulb moments and know what to do.