(Closed) I'm very interested about YOU and YOUR regional wedding traditions! Tell me!!!

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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alexa62:  I think two of the main driving forces behind the bridal portrait tradition is to (1) give one to your parents for their home and (2) put one in the newspaper. Here we do an engagement announcement in the paper with a picture of the couple and then a wedding announcement with a picture of the bride in her dress. I, for one, am super excited about taking my bridals because it’s not only a test run of my whole wedding day look but I can take them somewhere fun, like an old gorgeous plantation house that was too expensive to host my actual wedding lol πŸ™‚ Plus it will be much more stress free than trying to get a picture the day of!

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Does anyone else do the rehearsal bouquet out of shower gift bows? I’m not sure if that’s a regional thing or not.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I am from southeast Louisiana, and I have only been to weddings in Louisiana.  Some things that we do differently done here include:

-There is NEVER assigned seating at weddings done here.  Even if there was, I highly doubt anyone would stick to the seating chart.

-I have never had a sit-down meal at a wedding.  All weddings I have been to consist of passed hors d’oeuvres and a buffet.

-I have never been to a wedding with a cash bar.  The bars are always open down here.

-Every wedding has always had a money dance.  While some people think it’s tacky, it is 100% expected down here.

-There is not a set time for dancing.  People can dancer whenever they want.  Also, I have never been to a wedding with speeches.

I think that’s it!

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Okay.. here we go, it’s going to be along one. 

I am Russian, and I have only been to weddings in Russia, except on in the US, but it was my own first wedding 5 years ago and I didn’t bother with rules. 

First of all, weddings are only done at the court house. There is a ceremony, when bride and groom walk in hand in hand into the bug room (guests follow and stand in the back or a along the walls), but only on Fridays and Saturdays.  All other times they just sign a license in a small office. But lets start from the beginning.

Before the first look, the groom usually has to “pay ransom” for the bride. There is no official wedding party, but a couple of close friends of the bride prepare questions and tasks for the groom. If he can’t solve them, he has to “pay” – small coins or bills (they go to the “best man” to buy drinks during the photoshoot after the ceremony if they run out and the rest is given to the couple at the end of the night), candy, shots… Tasks usually include guessing which one of (anything of the bride’s – lip print, childhood picture, height, shoes size…), singing a song, naming best qualities of the bride and hope to match the list the BM’s made:)) 

Bride and groom drive to the ceremony in the separate cars for some reason – another tradition. 

Only a few select people are invited to the ceremony, and they all acoompany the couple for a photoshoot and tour of the city in several decorated cars. They all drink and celebrate while the couple is taking pictures. Also, they all honk a lot. 

At the reception parents and all other guests join the wedding, groom’s parents greet them with a home baked wedding bread and salt in a silver jar on a hand embroidered towel. It is a very, very old tradition to welcome the bride into her new family. Some of the towels and salt jars are passed down for generations. My towel was made by my grandom and salt jar comes from another grandmom. The couple takes a bite, and whoever got the biggest bite will be the head of the family. Fiance told me the couple is also supposed to drink champagne from a glass, then toss it and break it, but I haven’t heard of it…and we’re from the same town!

There is no gift table – everyone gives a speech and hands their present to the bride and groom. 

There is always a “host”\entertainer who keeps the evening going and directs everything. Not exactly a wedding planner, because he or she doesn’t deal with vendors, rather someone to keep guests interested and involved. There is usually a band, a barmen show, dancers and other entertainment. 

Seating is usually a long table or long tables in an open square shape, no RSVPs, no assigned seating. Cold appetizers, salads and bottled drinks(including alcohol) are set on the table, al family style on big plates. at least 2 different main courses during the night, sometimes a hot appetizer too. 

Cake makes an appearance only minutes before the cutting,usually with sparklers and music.

Money-grabbing is very common. there is a money dance, a “competition” for the gender of the first baby – guests put money into pink and blue baby jumpers, whichever gets more money wins. 

Often there is some sort of performance from guests when they play a dressup. Most oftnen guys dress as big busty women or babies in huge diapers. 

Another one is to steal a bride. Someone lures the bride away while another person is distracting the groom. Then groomha to pay for the bride or complete a task or just find her.  

I’m not so sure about this one, I’ve never seen it, but I herad a lot: apparently a bride’s shoe is passed around guests and they have to drink vodka from it. I hope they put a shot glass into it at least… ugh. gross. 

 

May not be the exact thing you were asking for, but that’s regional to me, LOL πŸ˜‰

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m from Southern California- middle class & Latina (both parents born here). 

Every single wedding invitation I’ve ever received had a registry card in it. I don’t even know what people would do if you didn’t but I’m sure they’d be annoyed. (I put the info on the wedding website but not in the invitation. My cousin actually went to Bed Bath & Beyond and had my regitry cards printed out for the shower!) If people give cash it’s usually as a pre-wedding gift to help with costs. 

Until I was in my teens basically every wedding I went to had a dollar dance. 

I’ve never been to an adults-only wedding. 

I think this is just a my family thing- but there’s usually a memorial table (set up similar to a Dia de los Muertos altar) at the reception. Not just pictures, but also momentos and things the deceased people liked. 

It isn’t uncommon to see cash bars. I think it’s been about 50/50 cash/hosted at weddings I’ve been to. 

I’ve only seen pre-wedding bridal portraits at one wedding and I seriously thought they were from earlier in the day and they just went to a one-hour photo place or something. I had no idea that people actually took these pictures ahead of time until recently via blogs. 

It is assumed the centerpieces are up for grabs- vases and all. Some people do a game of some sort to determine who gets it to avoid the aunties running around snatching them off people’s tables. πŸ˜€

Family/close friends stay and clean up. This is also the case with my very religious friends in the Midwest. 

Day after brunch/lunch while the bride & groom open presents is pretty normal. 

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mrscpa:  We do the shower gift bow/rehearsal bouquet thing! My friends my age aren’t familiar with that and all our older generation (like my grandparents ages) passed away a couple years ago, so I have to remember to remind one of my aunts to do it at my shower in a few weeks! 

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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kawood0618:  Another SE Louisiana bee here! You hit the nail on the head. I posted another thread about not doing RSVPs for weddings and from people’s responses I felt like an alien lol!

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Worker bee

I’m Canadian, and I’ve been to weddings in Quebec and the Maritime provinces. Almost every wedding I’ve been to was in a small town or a village. They were all large Catholic family events, with a lot of guests. Some French, some Irish, some both, one Scottish wedding in Nova Scotia.

At one huge reception in rural Quebec (the Beauce region… in a barn!) I think most of the county showed up for the dance. Hundreds of people. Small weddings (fewer than 50 guests?) are unusual.

Buffets are common for the reception meal, with assigned seating at most receptions that I’ve been to. After the meal, then a dance with a cash bar. The priest is sometimes invited to the reception if they know the family well. 

I’ve never seen: a bouquet toss; a garter toss; an open bar; a money dance; an adults-only wedding or reception; popular music during a wedding ceremony instead of hymns; or a cocktail reception. Now that I think of it, I don’t know anyone close to me who has ever done a destination wedding either. Also: no one here has gift registries.

I’ve also never seen any of the wedding dresses like the ones with super low backs, leg slits, or low cleavage… those haven’t become popular up this way yet. I’d have to go to Montreal or Toronto to see anything edgy. Lol.

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Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

 I’m from SoCal and a Hispanic bride and I think partying until the night ends is normal. my ceremony starts at 12, cocktail at 2-3:30 and dinner at 4-6 and dancing from 6-closing. It’s the norm for Hispanic people, to spend a whole day for a wedding, I’ve never been to a short 5 hour wedding. Also full bar is expected, it’s rude and tacky in Hispanic culture to make guest pay anything. Also normal to be clear about a registry or else they will buy you random things they think you will like/need. 

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Worker bee

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jmtwxoxo:  I think gift registries are a good idea. I have one cousin who got married without registering anywhere. She ended up being given four “slow cookers” as gifts!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I am in the midwest (Chicago Suburbs). Many people do STD’s (I did not bc we got married 6 months after being engaged). RSVP’s and assigned seating are standard at every wedding I have been to. Most offer entree options (we did not, but our venue charged extra), some people to bridal portraits, but I kind of see them as an extra thing that the wedding industry uses to make more $. People also register for gifts. 

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smg5281:  That cookie table looks awesome! 

Post # 26
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Busy bee

I am from Germany, but  have been living in the USA for A few years now. In Germany we don’t have any types of gift showers and I still don’t really see the point in them;) We do have an evening before the wedding when the couple breaks a lot of stuff (plates and cups mainly), and it is supposed to bring good luck (I think?). 

The other very traditional thing from Germany is that the couple has to saw a big wooden log together, right after the wedding (see picture). It is supposed to symbolize their first “work” together. Btw the picture is not mine πŸ˜‰

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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mrscpa:  As far as RSVPs go, I have only been to 1 wedding that had a RSVP.  We will ask guests to RSVP because our venue charges per head. πŸ™‚  Also, I have never been to an adults-only reception.  Kids at a wedding usually get the party started, and some of my greatest childhood memories are of dancing at weddings.

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Honey bee

I’m from the Maritimes (Canada) and a lot of times, after the ceremony/dinner, the dance is opened up to whoever wants to drop in! Generally only if you know the bride/groom so not randoms, but if your friends are getting married and for whatever reason couldn’t fit you in, it’s totally ok to show up after the meal. 

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Honey bee

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lifeispink:  LOL yes! I’m having a buffet, cash bar, no registry and no bouquet/garter- many things deemed horrible and tacky on here :P. Glad I’m in the norm for my area πŸ˜›

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Newbee

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mrscpa:  the shower bows as being the bouquet at the rehearsal dinner,I had never heard of until the other day when a friend of mine had had a pretty traditional wedding, where they did that. good thing she’s one of my bridesmaids!

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