(Closed) I’m worried about our guest list

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I know it might seem crazy but DONT STRESS. I had a simmilar issue, our venue was really small, and for a while we had almost 100 people invited when only about 70 would fit. you will be surprised at how many people won’t be able to make it. I had heard the statistics, but I was amazed when it worked out for us. And lastly don’t stress about the no shows and people who suck at rsvp ing. it is mega annoying and stressing won’t help! I wish I had relaxed a bit on my guest count.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ditto @vistagirl.  I think it’s pretty common to invite more than your space can hold and hope for the best πŸ™‚  We invited 206 to a space that holds 150 and we were more than fine! 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Agreed. We are having a “small” destination wedding but now it seems like lots of cousins (who i love) are “excited about coming” but I didn’t think they would come to Costa Rica all the way from Malaysia.

In total we are inviting 85 people but only expecting 40, and budgeting for 45.

Although my space COULD hold everyone if they all decided to come. My budget COULD NOT! Keeping my fingers cross for us both.

Good luck πŸ˜€

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@mandb122: All of you will be fine, I just know it!!!  πŸ™‚

They say 20-30% of guests invited will not show (and that’s for local weddings).  Destination weddings are about 50 – 60%. 

I wouldn’t stress about the situation because people being “excited” about the wedding and actually pulling things in their lives together to make it work are two different things.  Even I become excited about things a few months in advance and when the time comes closer, have to back out because life throws curve balls.  So, I think both you and @misspuravida will be fine.

As for the cousins … hosting the party a month after the wedding is a great idea!!!  I actually think that’s a great compromise to the “un”invite.  But, to be honest, I’m sure the family understands being that its a “Destination” wedding.  Some may even feel relieved that they are not obligated to go (and use expenses) since “its family”. 

But, make sure you register for the “after party” with the rest of his family.  lol  πŸ˜‰  Good luck!!!!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m inviting 154 and we can afford to feed 110… πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

we invited way over our number….but right now from the RSVPs we are at the number we were predicting/trying to hit…..which was 60. We’re at 56 so far.

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