Post # 1
My girlfriend and I have a loooooooong history (dated 9 years ago, reconnected a few years after that, and started seriously dating almost 2 years ago). In her mind, I was the one that got away, and since our second chance (ok, maybe third or fourth), she’s been ready for marriage from go. I’ve been the one to want to take things slower, work up to moving in together, getting a dog, getting engaged, etc.
We moved in together last year, and at the start of this year, I said I was ready to get engaged and we could start looking at rings. We set our budget, found the stone, designed the setting, and it SHOULD be ready and waiting with the jeweler. She wanted to propose “officially” so she’ll be the one to get the call when it’s ready for pick up.
But I KNOW it should be ready, and I’m going NUTS wondering when she’ll propose! I mention it multiple times a day – lovingly, jokingly, expectantly, etc. I’m so excited to have a FIANCE, to tell our family and friends, to plan our forever, to wear the ring we designed… the list goes on. But I’m worried my anticipation and excitement are overwhelming her. Sometimes she smiles when I get all girly and excited, and sometimes she looks miserable at hearing about it one. more. time.
I need advice. Should I just shut up? Stop mentioning it? I’m pretty strong-willed, so if I want to do something, I can. Or should I let my excitement show? I don’t want to ruin anything, or cause undo stress – I’m just so excited! Any perspectives from neutral third-parties, or others who knew it was coming but not exactly when?
Post # 2
That’s a long time! I reckon if you keep making comments, it might never feel like the right time as it may come across as a response to you mentioning it. If you know it’s definitely going to happen, give her time to do it the way she feels she needs to! Enjoy the excitement of the mystery and keep it in a bit to give her time to be the one to bring it up first for a change. So exciting!
Post # 3
Yup you should definitely stop mentioning it. You have tried the excited thing and it’s not really getting you anywhere. She will obviously know by now that you are super excited so I would just stop bringing it up. Take the preasure off of her a bit and let her do it when she is comfortable and feels like she has had the time to “get it right.”
I’m also waiting. I don’t think he has the ring yet but we went shopping back in January so he knows what he is looking for, just has to order it. I try not to bug him too much about it as I know that won’t make him speed up at all. He will get around to it in his own time. Until then I will continue to spend copious amounts of time on the Bee living vicariously.
Post # 4
I’m in awe of all the patient ladies who are able to wait quietly for their proposals. I did shut my mouth, and it certainly took the pressure off of her. Our two year anniversary came and went without a proposal, and I thought I was going to burst. I stressed myself out so badly I STILL have a stress rash on my forehead and chest. How do women stand years of this? I learned I am not a patient person…
But the wait is over. She proposed on Saturday, and it was perfect – everything I expected from my super-romantic FIANCEE. Sadly the ring was a smidge too small so it’s back with the jewelers to be resized. We should have it back in time for me to show it off at Easter dinner with the family
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
andourpuppymakesthree: Aw, it’s beautiful! Congrats!!!
Post # 6
Congrats! That’s a beautiful ring!
I am in the same boat you were, my bf has the ring and I just need to shut up and let him do his thing but i like to talk! I am going to be like you and try not to say anything. Hopefully I won’t get a stress rash though!