Post # 1
we arent having a cocktail hour, the ceremony finishes at 7 and we’re going straight into dinner
my venue has fantastic food, but thing is its kind of “gourmet”. by which i mean fancy but pretty small portions. and now im wondering if theyll still be hungry after the 3 courses are gone
im not sure that i can find enough money in the budget for a cocktail hour, since its nearly 3k for 100 people and its starting to stress me out.
i remember going to a wedding where the only food was a small chicken breast, 2 new potatos and a piece of broccoli and spending the night hungry.
the only way i think i could have a cocktail hour is changing the live band for a dj. should i?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
What about having snacks on some of the tables? Like frilly bowls full of color coordinated jelly beans or m&m’s? Or if you’ve got high-top tables anywhere small bowls of fancy nuts?
What are the 3 courses? If it’s light stuff like salads or fish, I’d say some people might want something a bit more, but if it’s more like pastas & meat you’re probably fine.
Post # 4
@juliette.eliza: Having some snacks and finger foods around sounds like a great idea. And I agree that the meal could include at least one course that “sticks to your ribs” more than say, a salad.
@newname_99: Will you venue allow you to bring in snacks or can they provide them?
I would mention the concern to them and hope they can stay within your budget. It’s a valid concern.
Changing to a DJ would probably work if you really want to do that.
Post # 5
vegatable soup, surf and turf or tuna, chocolate fondant. the surf and turf is two shrimpy prawn type things, a piece of meat, witha potapotato gratin and a cheesy mushroom. im not hugely worried about this one. but the tuna…has a teeny bit of sweet potato puree and just doesnt look substantial to me
Post # 6
@Sunfire: god im going to have to ask arent i? my venue is becoming increasingly snooty with me. its the most beautiful place ive ever seen, but they seem to think im a complete pleb for questioning various things eg when they said “we can provide the two pieces of fabric you want very cheaply…only 500 dollars” “er excuse me, how much? how is that cheap?”
but im locked into it now. ill have to see if they can come up with some options. i mean maybe im a pig (i really am, i eat constantly) but i just dont want people to leave and go straight for a “real dinner”
and here are the soup options – cappuchino of asparagus (normal sized coffee cup) and chaya soup in the bread bowl
Post # 7
What time does the ceromony start? I feel like if I read it started at 5 or so, I would use my wedding knowledge to snack beforehand! And I know my fiance would probably have us stop somewhere. I would not change out the band for the Dj 🙂
Post # 8
@newname_99: I would definitely do the cocktail hour and switch from band to DJ. I remember being at a wedding many years ago that didn’t have enough food and people got so drunk, a few vomited. Your guests will appreciate being fed more than they will appreciate a band. A good DJ is perfectly acceptable and can keep people on the dance floor just as well as a live band.
Post # 9
@newname_99: Wow, too bad they’re being snooty with you, so sorry to hear that!
I love to eat, too, so looking out for your guests is very nice of you. I would try speaking with them about it – just be snooty right back to them, lol.
If you have a DJ as you suggested maybe that will cut the cost enough to have a cocktail hour instead. A DJ will still provide music so if you can get more food that way it’s a win-win.
Post # 10
@Breen86: the ceremony starts at 6…lasts an hour, then dinner starts as soon as everyone is sitting down
i dont feel i can really run around telling people “dinner is small so snack before” haha…i mean we’re all in an AI hotel so people tend to snack throughout the day but still
i do love the live music though. eugh
Post # 11
If you really want a live band I wouldn’t chop this for the food, so many people I know go to weddings not expecting the best or biggest dinner anyway! Maybe you can get a “midnight” snack going an hour or so after the meal to feed those that are still a little hungry? You could serve snack foods with your cake that aren’t too expensive, if your vendor will allow you to bring in outside food – stuff like crackers and cheese, veggie trays, cookies or a sundae bar. You could also use the ideas of some other bees and rent a food truck or hot dog cart to be outside the venue near the end of the night so people can grab a snack on the way out or while they are still dancing! I know these are usually a heck of a lot cheaper than cocktail hours given by caterers.
Good luck! Keep in mind that fatty and carb-filled foods keep people fuller, so try to throw those in there!
Post # 12
Instead of a cocktail hour, could you do a snack during the evening? We’re doing a snack in addition to a cocktail hour, but the cost of the snacks are less than the cocktail hour.
Also, could you maybe do something that would provide a bit of extra food. A cookie bar for favors, would give your guests the option of eating cookies. Or perhaps some groom’s cupcakes that people could snack on?
Post # 13
actually there is a midnight buffet type thing which comes out at around 16 dollars per person… so 1600 which is vastly cheaper than the cocktail hour. its not fancy, its just tacos and chilaquiles (because its in mexico) which might work
my fi doesnt get it…hes like, “well people can just go back to the hotel and order the 24 hour room services for free. its an all inclusive” but it just seems wrong to me that a guest should have to leave and eat afterwards!
i do think somethigns going to be needed to soak up the alcohol. dont want guests dropping like flies from the open bar
Post # 14
@newname_99: I think you definitely could do this later snack (because it sounds yummy!), but to be honest I think a lot of people do leave a wedding and eat after. I’m not offended when I go to a wedding and end up eating later in the evening… But maybe it’s because I like to eat a lot 😉
Post # 15
I think that shouldd be fine for dinner. (I wouldn’t be hungry after that.) And then a later taco buffet.
Post # 16
@Cappugcino: that is exactly what I was going to suggest!
@newname_99: A lot of times I don’t eat that much at cocktail hour because I want to be able to enjoy dinner, but then I am super hungry later in the night!