(Closed) I’m writing this on my wedding website and I don’t even care!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I like it.  I wouldnt care what people thought.

I kind of feel the same way too.  We have been living together for 2 years. I don’t really need anything.

I am, of course, going to register for a few things. But thats it.  I also am doing a honeymoon registry.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

well I think it makes a difference because you explained your situation. And because you put this at the bottom:  “Nevertheless, as I have said before, when it comes to the wedding… your presence is our present. :)”

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Why don’t you just register at Lowes/Home Depot for the things you need for your kitchen remodel? I’m sure many people will still give you money, but then you won’t have to risk offending more old fashioned guests. 

I personally wouldn’t write that on my wedding website (frankly, I don’t even have a registry tab), but, if you don’t think your family/friends will be offended, more power to you!

Post # 7
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619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think it’s great!

Post # 8
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012 - Wynn Las Vegas/Bouchon Bistro

If you have been telling people that their “presence is [your] present,” can’t you just leave it at that? If people really want to give you something — or want to give you money — then it’s their choice.

I just don’t know that your wedding website is the place for such a rant.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I like it.

I generally dislike asking for money, but as long as you have a SMALL registry it doesn’t matter.

I give money 100% of the time at weddings. and gifts at a bridal shower.

btw what about registering at Home Depot?

Post # 10
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1111 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I actually really like it, too.  I feel like even some of the people who are sticklers for the “you can’t ask for money” etiquette will appreciate you acknowledging the fact that you know you’re not “supposed to” – but that you value their money enough to tell them where it will be really useful!

I would not be offended in the slightest by this explanation.  I think it’s great, and you phrased everything super politely.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mole:  Because most people are going to bring a gift regardless.  This way, they know where their hard-earned money will be most useful, should they choose to give something other than their presence.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Seriously register at Home Depot. My grandma was beside herself with happiness that she could get us a practical gift. She bought us a fridge. A lot of people don’t really want to buy you the china/crystal and would prefer buying whatever makes you happy.

Post # 14
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10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is fantastic but then again I see nothing wrong in saying “hey I’d rather have money than gifts” I live in an overcrowded condo myself… 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve always found it insane that people harp on and on about how rude it is to ask for money…and then say “but I always give money”. Sigh. I think what you wrote is fine, and a very timely explanation of the situation most of us city-dwellers are in!

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