- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2016
So Fiance and I are in the process of guestlisting and hunting for our reception and I have noticed that our nunever of guests will be very unbalanced! Fiance isn’t fussed/doesn’t care but I feel uneasy since we are splitting the wedding cost 50-50 and I dont want my parents to contribute because they are both retired and living off their savings.
-family & close relatives (aunts, uncles and cousins): 50
-distant relatives/family friends: 20
-family & close relatives: 5
-his parents don’t want to invite any family friends
Just a bit of background:
I’ve always grown up to be very family orientated and my extended family are very close (large family gatherings at least once a year etc). I’ve got about 40 relatives living locally and I’m estimating that another 10 are coming interstate or overseas (out of a possible 100-big family).
I make every effort to keep in contact with people that are important to me in my life and my list compose of mainly high school and university friends and their SOs. I’m not merely inviting S.O out of obligation but it’s because my friends and I often organise group dates that involve our S.O to the point we are all familiar with each other.
My parents would like to invite some of our closer family friends and I would like that also because many of them have watched me grow up and it would be lovely to have them there. However, I am already limiting my parents to 2 table each.
On the other hand, all FIs extended family are overseas and are very unlikely to make it for our wedding due to financial constraints.
Being a junior doctor, Fiance has been having a lot of trouble keeping regular contact with many of his friends due to the irregularity imof everyone’s working hours. It also doesn’t help that he is an avid gamer and prefer to stay home and play online games with his online friends.
Sorry about the long post but I wanted to know if anyone else has encountered the same problem And whether it’s really a problem at all and I am being an idiot stressing out over it.