(Closed) Imitation is the best form of flattery?? *RANT* long

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Put a little distance between her and yourself. And stop talking to her about your plans. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Yep – I have to agree with the PP. It sounds like you have noticed a trend and I think your best course of action is to simply stop sharing details with her and distance yourself. There is little else to do because you will end up looking petty if you call her on it…

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If she really is copying I don’t get why you spend any time with them. I also question why your So think it’s ok to have a friend making out of line comments about you.

If he likes them and other then this copying and petty shit then I suggest you stop hanging out with them. Just because your So likes doesn’t mean that you have to hang out with them.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow that’s weird.  It seems like Joe has a thing for you, and he is making it obvious…and so she is trying to be like you to make him like her — even though he’s MARRIED to her!!!  The problem seems to be Joe, not Emma.  

 

 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think I would likely resort to passive aggressive behavior and tell her about my plans to take up crocodile wrangling, dye my hair purple, and tattoo my forehead.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I sounds more like she’s not trying to one-up you as much as she sounds very insecure and is trying to emulate a secure woman that her husband obviously admires (more than he should be vocalizing, but that’s another matter).

I don’t think you’re being petty, but I agree with PP that you should try to put a bit of space between the two of you.  Having someone that hangs on everything you do is not only annoying, it’s not helpful for her either.  She needs to live her life and not take her cue from you (or Joe, who I think may be the reason she’s copying you).

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@julies1949:  Hahaha. Yes! 

I think you could just stop telling her life plans even if it’s little things and DO them first and then confide in her…or just don’t confide in her at all. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Imitation IS the sincerest form of flattery, but this is almost following the Single White Female Route, and for me that’s a little scary…because I don’t think anyone can be that unaware of what they’re doing and what inspired them to do it….

I’m in a weird mood today, so stick with me on this one…you could be the bigger person, let it go and try to limit what plans and ideas you share with her, this is what a totally reasonable and level headed person would do, and most likely what I would recommend under normal circumstances…

OR you could put this to the ultimate test and really see just how far Emma is really willing to go on this….tell her your thinking of enrolling in clown college, trying out for the amateur mud wrestling team and probably starting an underground boxing club….if she’s really as creepy as you say she is, she’ll be running around in a pair of rubber pants, covered in mud with a black eye by Monday!  And while it accomplishes nothing, it would be HILARIOUS…and also show your SO how close he is to becoming part of her weirdo obsession.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Nona99:  Haha.  I really like this idea.  And my office-mate is looking at me wondering why I am snickering so much.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

“Imitation is the best form of flattery”

I HATE THIS SAYING. As someone who goes out of her way to stand out from the crowd, imitation is NOT flattery to me!

as for your situation, is it possible that Joe is basically getting his wife to look and act like you because of his huge thing for you?

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Stop talking to her about your plans. And if you really want to make a point, you can just start telling her the wrong things. “I found this amazing dress it’s going to look so good on me if only I could justify buying it right now, I so wish I could have it, don’t you love it?” Emma goes out and buys an ugly dress. “I actually really want a pixie cut now! They’re the best way to show you’re really confindent and show off a naturally beautiful face” Emma cuts off all her hair. ETC.

Otherwise, I would distance myself a little, but I feel bad for this girl. She probably knows that Joe would have preferred to date you, and feels like she’s getting compared. I wonder if he makes a lot of comparisons to her “LeeLee is really thin, you would look so much better thin” and then tries to act like you’re copying her in public so he doesn’t look so manipulative.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@Nona99:  You beat me to it, and with much better suggestions!

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