(Closed) Immediate Family Only

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

We had immediate family and a handful of close friends. had a count of 65 including party and us. It was pretty hard to keep it quiet from extended family as Darling Husband and a HUGE family… inviting them put our guestlist to close to 200. His mother’s side was pretty understanding but his dad’s side threw a fit.

We did what we could do that and left it at that… it worked and we have no regrets =)


Post # 4
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We had 18 at the ceremony and 14 at the reception.  Everyone did know about it but they also seemed to understand since it was largely a money issue.  We cut our invite list where we did because it felt like after that, it would snowball as to who needed to be invited.  It was really fun and gave us a chance to actually spend time with every one of our guests.  Also, definitely get one picture that has all of your guests with you in it, it’s one of my favorite pictures.

Post # 5
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are having 11 people and they are all immediate family. I told all my extended family the reasoning behind the small wedding and I explained that I would bring my Fiance to meet them all after the wedding. But I guess I had an easy explanation since out of the 11 people coming to the wedding only 2 of them are FI’s family and he doesn’t have any extended family, so it would be crazy uneven if I invited everyone in my family.

Post # 8
2320 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@STBMrsRoss: Similiar situation here with us. His family is 5 people and mine would easily go into the 50’s and that just doesn’t seem right.

We have limited our guest list to our immediate family and then our 3 closest married friends (25 total, but it will probably be 21). Friends is the area where we get the most flack. My mom will ask me every other week why I’m inviting my BFF instead of my aunt and uncle who live  1,000 miles away.

So far everyone knows about it and they just don’t bring it up. It’s awkward but I’m hoping the understand that just because they choose to have 100 people at their wedding doesn’t mean that I have too and it doesn’t mean that I don’t love them.

Post # 9
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

we had family only and a few family friends (so close they are considered family) we had about 60 people. It was very difficult keeping it private and a lot of people were upset they were not invited but for the people that actually matter they understood 🙂

Post # 10
3 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are having 12 guests. Just 2 witnesses and immediate family. We’re not telling anyone else until the last minute. 🙂

My family is based in Europe and my FI’s in Australia, so logistically it made sense to have something small.

At the end of the day, it has to be what you want!

We hate being the center of attention and just want it to be a mellow, great day!

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