(Closed) Immediate Family Only Due to $ and Friends/Social Media

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you share milestones (like saying yes to the dress) on social media given the circumstances?
    Yes, enjoy your bridal experience, everyone will understand. : (23 votes)
    29 %
    No, that will remind friends that they're not a part of your big day. : (55 votes)
    71 %
  • Post # 31
    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I also don’t really post much on social media – just the switch to being engaged. I would keep the updates on the wedding hunt to those involved in the planning – they’re the ones who will most likely care the most anyway. Also, it could avoid some awkward comments, like “can’t wait to get our invitation” or “so excited to see you on your big day” that would be super uncomfortable to have to deal with on such a public forum.

    Post # 32
    4238 posts
    Honey bee


    I voted no not for the “don’t talk about a party” rule (with which I do agree) but on the publishing rule of thumb (which also applies to all nuptials, no matter the size of the party): if you’d place an announcement in the newspaper, post it on social media. I’ve read engagement or elopement/wedding announcements in the newspaper but never the venue reservation or dress purchase or cake tasting. 

    Just my $0.02.


    Post # 33
    4238 posts
    Honey bee


    While I can agree with the “it’s your life, you do you” sentiment, this is a question that she posted to the etiquette forum, so sharing what we think she should do is kinda the point, right? 


    Post # 34
    365 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    I think constant planning updates are just a bit attention seeking. The only reason to do it to make people ask about you wedding (which if you’re not inviting them is awkward).

    I totally agree with the don’t talk about a party in front of people not invited. What’s more important a “cute” picture that might get a few likes or the feeling if your friends that won’t be invited?

    If you want to share moments with some close friends just text them, there is no need to broadcast these things on social media. 

    Post # 35
    9172 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i had 120 people at my wedding and didn’t post a single picture on social media pre wedding.  after the wedding i posted a couple of the professional shots.  that was it.


    Post # 36
    75 posts
    Worker bee

    NFLwidow:  sure is! And i gave her my opinion. Apparently it differs from yours??.. So be it. Not everything has to be confronted or made an issue lol 

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