- 11 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I’ve been on the boards for a while, even though i’m still “waiting”. I came to do some ‘research’ 🙂 and start pre-planning. My BF has been fully involved with the pre-planning, we already know where the ceremony and reception will be, and have talked about other details, everything from colors to the food to the wedding party.
The reason we are not ‘officially’ engaged is largely a financial one, long story short my BF is a freelancer and went through a very dry spell in terms of work. Things have since turned around, and he has been able to settle some of the debt he incurred and is saving for the ring. We have gone ring shopping together, and discussed that the engagement will come after our move to a new state/new house (which is in less than 2 weeks, sep 1)
So, i’m expecting the official engagment sometime in Setember or October, November at the very latest. My BF has made it clear he is READY, haha. My mom as well as me and the BF have discussed timing, I’ve always wanted a summer wedding. So now i’m left with a dilemma, Plan a wedding in 8 or 9ish months, or have a long engagement?
my BF and i have been together a while, we live together now and we’re moving into a new house together, we’re fully committed and happy and by and large never have rough patches or huge house collapsing arguments- in other words, there’s no question we want to be together and the only reason to have a long engagement would be to plan. We’re in no rush but at the same time i’ve heard a long engagement can get overwhelming with planning and I don’t see any reason to wait almost 2 years from now to be married. Is 9 months enough time? I have a very demanding job and am also going to be getting married in another state. my BF says its largely up to me and he’ll help and contribute no matter what i decide but he said he’s fine with either situation, since we live together and are very happy it’s not a HUGE decision and to be honest, won’t change much (dont get me wrong i fully believe in the sanctity of marriage i’m just saying it wont change our day to day lives)
***The reason i’m asking now, instead of waiting for the engagement and then deciding, is because if its going to be a summer 2011 i want to start doing more planning now (just planning and pricing things, no actually purchasing or booking), so that come sep/oct i have a spreadsheet and/or plan of attack..
I’m looking for ANY advice/thoughts i can get. For me the summer timing is kind of non-negotiable, plus our venue is going to be outside.