(Closed) imminent engagement in a couple months, now what to do about the wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: When should i have my wedding??
    You'll be fine with 9 months of planning- go for summer 2011 : (31 votes)
    91 %
    You'll be overwhelmed, and what's the rush? - go for summer 2012 : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Other options/Neither, etc- explain below : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    694 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It is definitely doable to plan a wedding 9 months!  My only concern would be venue availability, especially if you are dead set on a particular location.  Same would go for other vendors if you have already decided who you want.  I suppose if you had a wedding on a day other than Saturday you will probably have a bit more room for flexibility with whatever dates are available.  

    If you want to do the 9 month engagement, maybe just call up a few of the places you want and see what their bookings are like – when they book and how quickly they book up for summer events.  That might help you decide if you do not want to starting booking anything until your engagement is official.

    Good luck!  I hope your engagement comes soon!

    Post # 4
    2689 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’d go for the 8 or 9 month engagement. I’m not a fan of long engagements, but then we don’t have to save up money, finish school or all that good stuff people with longer engagements do. (we’re 29 and 32) When we get engaged, it’s going to be a year or shorter. I’d prefer 7 months, but that depends on when he asks because we want a wedding when it’s not so hot.LOL

    Post # 5
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Well, you said finances have been the holdup – can you afford to have the shorter engagement? Also, keep in mind that the venue, photographer, etc that you have been pining over may be booked since you will be planning in a short period of time! That’s fantastic that you’re so cloce though!! And that you guys are being so responsible by waiting to buy the ring. Sounds like you’re being really smart about things!

    Post # 6
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We’re having a (slightly less than) 7 month engagement, and it’s been absolutely fine. I’ve always wanted fall, and this will be the last fall that I’m not teaching full-time, so it was kind of our only option. We were flexible on the date (looked at days in Sept-Nov) and we were able to book the venue we fell in love with (on a Friday, but we chose that for budget reasons as well). There has been PLENTY of time to get things done — you just have to stay on top of everything from the beginning. If your SO is okay with it and you have enough time to save the money, I’d go with next summer.

    I’ll add that we’re also planning from another state, about 4ish hours away, and I’m a full-time student with a job and he’s a writer who works a zillion hours a week. There are definitely times that we have done nothing wedding-related because life gets in the way, but I’ve still found that we can get it all done.

    Post # 7
    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    you can definitely plan it in 9 months.

    if you guys are REALLY on the same page, i would recommend talking about actually “planning” now and not waiting for the ring. this way, you will be able to get the vendors of your choice. i know most people say to wait for the actual proposal, but for some people, pre-planning a lot of stuff really works. we had actually booked a venue about 3 weeks before we got engaged (got a good deal, venue books up a year in advance and HE was more pushy about it than i was), and that doesn’t work for everyone BUT i would definitely recommend you start looking at pricing and availability of vendors.


    Post # 10
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Nine months to plan is definitely enough time (but order you dress now because it took 6 months for mine to come in – it was a Maggie Sottero).  But first and foremost I say, plan for what you can afford.  If you can’t afford the wedding you guys want in nine months then don’t have it (or be happy with a smaller wedding)  don’t go into debt over your wedding.  Good luck and congratulations!

    Post # 11
    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You could definitely plan and execute a wedding in 8-9 months. Fiance and I will have been engaged for 10 months on our wedding day, but we actually planned everything in 5 (we didn’t do anythin or the first 5 months, because we were planning a longer engagement- but we ended up moving the date up). My advice? Try to plan everything as far in advance as possible, once you start. Also, the shorter your planning time, the more decisive you’ll have to be. Remember that, pick things you love, and don’t second-guess yourself!

    Post # 12
    1799 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I got engaged in the middle of october (oct 10) and had a summer wedding in July. I had it in VANCOUVER, where you have to book things atleast a year in advance, but with only a short 9 months I was able to plan the wediding of my dreams!!

    You can do it!!

    Post # 13
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    wow, we’re in a very similar situation — just got engaged less than 2 weeks ago, living 8 hours away from our hometown/wedding site, always wanted a spring wedding, etc. 

    It looks like we’ll be booking for april/may this coming spring, which gives us 8-9 months, and i’m confortable with that, especially since both of our families will be available to help out.  I’m glad to see other people agree that planning can be done in 9 months! 

    Good luck with your planning and imminent engagement!

    Post # 15
    1374 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I just got engaged last weekend (squee!) and set a date for early April, giving me 7 months to plan (mostly because I don’t want to wait a year to marry my Fiance, I want to do it NOW!)  So far, it seems very doable.  I’m focusing on getting the venue squared away within the next few weeks (we’re doing it on a Sunday and everything around here seems to be available) and my dress, then being able to relax again.

    I think 9 months is totally fine.

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