(Closed) Impatient. Was hoping for this year.

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Take up a new hobby or set a new goal for yourself to work at? I know it seems like things are dragging.

Also, maybe consider a different ring? It seems like you could easily be engaged and planning a wedding but your preferences have gotten in the way.

Stay strong!!!

Post # 4
3297 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

6-7 K is a LOT of money. Think of it this way: if you found a necklace online and loved it, but it was several thousand dollars, would you buy it? Remember that the ring is only a symbol 🙂 I chose an affordable ring (under $500) because I was sick of waiting LOL.

Post # 5
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Ive learned through this travel that men are really fickle. They really want it all to be perfect. Maybe hes trying to throw you off? It is sooo hard to wait. Im [this] close and it is killing me LOL.. Try to stay occupied. You can dream (online) to fullfill those needs1

Post # 6
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow, 6 to 7 k? If you want to be enagged sooner why not settle for a smaller ring? He’s right, that is a LOT of money and I can see why it would be making it take longer. Honestly, if I were him I’d be feeling resentful about being pushed to propose NOW when the ring you chose is so expensive.

Post # 7
1365 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry but I have to agree exactly with @courtney1188.

In terms of staying strong through waiting, however…. these boards and venting both really help. And keeping busy/focusing on other things and other goals in your life. Best of luck.

Post # 8
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

If you want to be engaged by the end of the year, you might consider not asking your guy to pony up 6-7K for a ring. Could you find something more in his price range and make it clear your priority is to be with him?

Post # 10
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@nycfashionista: But he told you the reason he hasn’t proposed is because of the cost of the ring… so maybe if you compromised you wouldn’t have to wait much longer. Either way, hope it happens soon.

Post # 11
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Waiting sucks, and there’s not a lot you can do about it. Try to take up a hobby to keep your mind off of it. I like to read, so I’ve been researching and reading lots and lots of books. Hopefully he is just throwing you off and you get engaged soon.

Post # 12
2893 posts
Sugar bee

@nycfashionista: It sounds more like he could eventually afford it but can’t afford it at just this moment. I’m really only saying that because even you said that he said that it was about the money. Did you guys ever sit down and establish a budget for the ring? Or did you just happen to find something it it just happened to be between 6-7K?

Please, don’t take this as “your tastes are too expensive” judgement. I’m in the same position. Right now, the ring we bought, between the setting and the stone, ran us about 7K. My guy could afford it. It’s what HE wanted to spend. But it did take him a couple months to move things around, budget, and figure out that number. Before we started we established a budget and went from there. So I’d be a huge hypocrite to jump on to the how dare you pick an expensive ring train.

Are you sure it’s something he can afford at the moment? Have you guys shopped around for similar styles that might fetch a lower price point?

The topic ‘Impatient. Was hoping for this year.’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors