Post # 1
Our original engagement timeline was the end of this year. Then that was bumped-up (by him) to Thanksgiving. Then it was again bumped-up (by him) to Halloween. He also told me that he has the ring and has a plan on how to give it to me and to just be patient.
But now that I know an engagement is SO close it’s hard to be patient! I don’t think it will happen this month (he’s visiting a friend out of state for 2 weeks soon and this is a busy time for him). But I could see it happening in September or October. It’s getting hard to not obsess about wedding things, especially since he keeps bringing them up. (Ex: He asked me what month we should get married in and where we should go on a honeymoon.)
I told him he’s driving me nuts and that I’m going to go into full-blown planning mood if he didn’t stop. So he said ok, but it’s like he just can’t help himself. (I think he’s as excited as I am. lol) There’s a bridal show going on in our city later this month and I’m contemplating going. Would that be weird since I’m not engaged? I’m also trying my best to keep busy working on a vacation scrapbook. (It’s going to be about 40 pages and is quite the project.)
Post # 2
Smart idea about making your vacation scrapbook! Keep yourself busy and think of other things. Tell him to not tell you when he bumps it up anymore lol. October will be here as soon as you know it.
I probably wouldn’t go to a bridal show if I weren’t engaged. You should look up to see if there are any happening after Halloween and plan to go to them instead if you are engaged by then.
Post # 3
I think it’s fine if you want to go ahead and start looking at dresses, colors, venues, etc. to get an idea of what you’re interested in, however I wouldn’t go into full on planning mode and actually go to a bridal show when you’re not actually engaged yet.
I probably could’ve planned a whole wedding while waiting for my FI to propose, but it all would’ve meant pretty much nothing and probably would have offended him somewhat since it’s our wedding, not mine. It’s a special time you get to share with each other, as stressful as it can be.
Keep yourself busy with other things in the meantime – too much wedding stuff could drive you even more crazy about an upcoming proposal. It’ll be here before you know it!
Post # 4
I am in the same boat as you! I know he has the ring and that the proposal will be in either September or October. He also bounces ideas off of me as to how to propose, which I told him to stop doing since I still want it to be a surprise!
Keeping busy helps, venting your excitement though creative means such as writing a love story or sketching/painting seems to help.
However, I totally went into full wedding planning mode anyway (which he is totally fine with and regularily gives me his opinion on), which has actually helped with waiting for the engagement, strangely enough. I’m just so preoccupied with venues and prices that I’m not thinking about how he’s going to propose. We joke all the time that I’ll have the entire wedding planned before we’re even engaged; which I suppose isn’t the worst thing in the world!
I am 100% guilty of going to a wedding show a few weeks ago… and I thought it was pretty fun! I went with my sister (who had to pick up resources for her friend, who is engaged but couldn’t go) and we had fun eating cake and such. I got a lot of free things, including magazines that have been super helpful in the pre-planning process with just getting an idea of what I am getting myself into; wedding-wise.
So just go for it, why not? I found it fun! Since we have a wedding month & year picked out, I just wore a $20 Amazon ring that I’ve had for awhile and said I was engaged (because I may as well be) and was just browsing for my wedding that’s almost three years away. No pressure from vendors, but still got some great information.
Best of luck, to both of us waiting this out! 😀
Post # 5
I say stop driving yourself nuts and just start planning. Who cares if some may think it’s weird. Go to the show, have fun! If people ask where your ring is, tell them you left it at home, it’s not a lie. Most people wish they had started planning earlier than they did, so I say go for it. Sounds like your FH is fine with planning now anyway, who’s it going to hurt? There’s only so many oppourtunities to go look at venues so staring to research now could be a great idea. Have fun!