(Closed) Importance of an engagement ring

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
Member
47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are getting married without an engagement ring.  I feel very strongly about most traditions, but this wasn’t one of them.  Even if my fiance wasn’t a graduate student, I would have a hard time seeing it as anything other than a waste of money (for me- I’m not passing judgement on anyone else- if you want one, then it isn’t a waste) and I have huge issues with the gem industry in general and the diamond industry in specific. 

It turns out, that my mother had never wanted one either.  She likes jewelry (more than I do), but she didn’t see the point in an engagement ring (my dad ended up buying her one the day before the wedding, because he didnlt believe her).  One of my best friends doesn’t have one either. 

We are, however, going to have wedding rings, as that to me, symbolizes the union more than an engagement ring.

Post # 18
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1206 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Mine is special to me because it is a combination of what both of us wanted.  He wanted a solitaire, I wanted something completely different than anything anyone else I knew had.  It’s also special to me, because it is one of two (soon to be three!) real pieces of jewelry I own.  The other is a ring my mother gave to me for my 16th birthday.

Post # 20
Member
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Mine is important to me because my fiance designed it for me and also a symbol of how far he has come since we dated. When we started dating, he had no held a job longer than 6 months, he was broke all the time, generally irresponsible. He didn’t tell me this till after we got engaged but he said what he loved about me was that I made him a better man. He shaped up because he knew if he didn’t I would leave him and he didn’t want to lose the best thing that happened to him. It’s a one carat, nearly flawless ring, in an art deco setting. I wouldn’t have any other ring.

Post # 21
Member
940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’ve loved reading these messages! It’s nice to know you’re not alone in your feelings and your desires, no matter how rational or irrational they are.

On the one hand, I never wanted an engagement ring. On the other hand, I wanted one very badly. In favor of not having one, I really didn’t want to have to worry about choosing a ring. For tiny things, they’re exceptionally complicated!

Well, I didn’t have to. I’m wearing the exact engagement ring that my fiance’s mother wore when they were married in 1967. The diamond was originally purchased by my fiance’s paternal grandmother in 1948 in Europe. So, I’m the third woman to wear this ring. Which is a remarkable, remarkable honor.

Thanks for this thread.

Post # 22
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

My ring is very special to me!! Two of the diamonds were from my FI’s great aunt’s ring that was passed down to his mom, and the middle diamond was GOING to be a ring from his grandmother’s ring, but his mom really wanted to hold on to it – so she actually bought him a diamond to go in the middle. He really didn’t want to let her buy it, but she insisted because he had always thought he’d be getting that diamond but when the time came to actually let go of the diamond she was just too sentimental. It was so sweet of her to do that!

I love that all three of the diamonds in my ring have some sort of a story behind them! 

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