Importance of proximity to daycare

posted 2 months ago in Parenting
  • poll: Which daycare option?

    Daycare A

    Daycare B

    Neither

  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
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    @amongclouds:  there’s no question it should be daycare B. As soon as you mentioned allegations of child abuse that should be a complete no. The distance from your work / home is negligible, and daycare B just sounds like the only option you should be considering! You’ll regret the sense of unease as you leave your child at a daycare you don’t trust everyday, much more than the 10 minute drive. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
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    @amongclouds:  option A would not even be on my radar when there’s a better option only 10 mins drive away. We chose our daycare in equal parts due to convenience, cost and feeling when we visited. It’s not perfect but it’s close by. However, if there had been ANY suggestion of allegations against staff we wouldn’t have even considered it. Convenience only goes so far! 

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee

    I wouldn’t even consider A due to the abuse allegations. 

    I voted B but I’d keep looking as well. 

    To me you can only see how the good the fit is when you come for orientation. Not sure with Covid restrictions what daycare B will allow.

    We had to decide between 2 daycares – I liked #1 but my husband liked #2. We went with #2. I came with my daughter for 1 hour orientation and quickly realized she will not be staying there. I just didn’t like how the staff treated the kids, especially let them cry etc.  

    So we went to daycare #1 – I spend about 3 days with her in the daycare (orientation), I just sat in the room and observed and I really liked how the staff gave a lot more hugs, the atmosphere was a lot nicer and I felt confident in leaving her there. 

    I hope you will be able to spend time inside daycare 2 and see for yourself how the staff is because although it’s important the director is good, it’s also important to see how the staff in the room are especially when the kids are tired/cranky etc.

     

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
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    Do you have a chance to talk to daycare A? Ask the hard questions? Because if the employee(s) in question were fired and policies changed, and the daycare was transparent about all of that, I wouldn’t write it off. One of my good friends works in daycare, and unfortunately abusive situations happen at a LOT of them, both publicly reported and not reported, so I’d be curious to see how open they are about it and what, if anything, they’ve changed as a result. With high turnover and new staff/policies, it may be a totally different place today than it was then. 

    But, at the end of the day, 10-15 minutes is worth it for your peace of mind, if you do like it better and it’s an overall better fit. Don’t be wowed by fancy buildings…our daycare is in a church, and definitely isn’t fancy, but it is cozy and their philosophies around caring for kids really lines up with ours (no vaccine exemptions, pro-breastfeeding, no screen time ever, lots of outdoors time, etc) so it was our first choice over the fancier options! 

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee

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    @amongclouds:  I was expecting you to say the second daycare was an hour away. All of this debate over ten minutes? This shouldn’t even be a discussion as a daycare 10 minutes away is still incredibly close. Most people don’t have the convenience to have a day care in the same building and would likely have one 10 minutes away as the closest option. Daycare B.

     

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee

    I’d lean heavily toward B…a 15 min drive from home isn’t that bad. Plus I’m all about trusting your mama instinct and it sounds like B is where you’re at.

    However, I agree with Diana’s advice to contact A and ask about the abuse allegations. Get the context.

    Right before our child started at daycare, I checked the state licensing website and found a new violation for our center that had just been reported a couple weeks prior. It was a self reported incident that a childcare provider had “pushed” a child. Obviously my heart sunk and I freaked out. We asked the director about it, and she explained that a teacher had “playfully” pushed a student on the playground, not hard enough to make them fall or anything. The incident had been witnessed by a different teacher, who felt uncomfortable with it and reported it. They had an investigation into it, and ultimately fired the teacher who pushed the child because they have zero tolerance about that type of thing. The whole thing actually made me feel better about our place because of how seriously they took it.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
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    With all the facts as you presented, I would pick Daycare B. While convenience is great (especially when you get called to pick a sick kiddo up early!), the abuse allegations and mixed reviews would make me uncomfortable. I could not leave my kid for 8-10 hours a day in a place where I ws uncomfortable with her care. 

    I know this is a hard decision, so big kudos to you for doing all your research! Good luck with your decision. 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Daycare B! Don’t be fooled by fancy buildings and trust your gut. And honestly closer to home is ALWAYS better in my opinion. If you work from home, need a sick day for you, just want to play hooky and have a day-date with your husband, need them out of your hair for 2 hours while you pack for vacation, etc. you want to be able to utilize your daycare because it’s close to home and not 40 minutes away by the office. 

     

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
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    Even with all else being equal I’d personally never choose daycare onsite at work. What if you lose your job, or decide to leave? Do you want to drive into your work if you’re say on mat leave with #2? Or taking a sick day? And what if your husband has to pick LO one up? Closer to home is way more convenient IMO.

    I will also say that for both daycare and school we had the option of larger centres/schools and always chose to put our kids in smaller centres. I have found there’s a lot more of a community vibe in our daycare of 50 kids than there was at my friend’s large centre with multiple classes of every age. Plus our kids were with the same group all the way through, which is really nice.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
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    Also, just to add. I don’t know how it is where you live, so it may be different. But here, safety inspections that a daycare would pass aren’t about things like the way the staff treats children, but rather are there working smoke detectors, is there an accessible exit for every classroom, do you run fire drills, etc. They wouldn’t look at abuse allegations for that, so the argument that they wouldn;t pass safety inspections if there was abuse may not even be true.

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