(Closed) Improper cocktail hour ettiquette?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My concern is that people will be drinking and then immediately driving.  I would say have the cocktail hour without alcohol but with hors d’oeuvres and save the alcohol for the reception.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah that’s not a good plan.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@MrsDavid2bee:  As lovely as the idea sounds in theory, I think it’s a bad idea to serve your guests alcohol, then immediately ask them to drive to a different location…. Seems kind of like you may have M.A.D.D. at your door….

That being said, I love the idea of two locations, so maybe theres a way you can do it so that people aren’t driving themselves? Maybe offer a shuttle bus/ limo? It can pick up everyone at a local hotel (where they can stay, or just leave their cars), then go to the ceremony and then to the reception after cocktails. If there’s no hotel, maybe they can leave their cars at the ceremony site? and the shuttle can return there after?

If a shuttle isn’t an option, maybe have a wonderful non-alcoholic “cocktail hour” with all of the fab h’oeuvres, and just “mocktails”, then start serving alcohol at your reception.

Its not that I have a concern or problem with the cocktail hour and reception being at different locations, it’s that it feels a little like encouraging driving after drinking… which in my books is wrong.

Just my opinion

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Ms.GoodEarth:  this was my first thought too.

 

@MrsDavid2bee:  perhaps you can have a bit of champagne for initial toasting and then some non-alcoholic signature drinks or mocktails.  have you maybe considered a shuttle between the ceremony/cocktail hour and the reception?  this way you can have your true “cocktail hour” and no one will have to drive. 

if the first location serves food, why wouldn’t you just have your reception there too?  why the need for an additional venue?? 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@MrsDavid2bee:  Correct, the issue is the alcohol and the potential for drinking and driving…. not the two different locations.

If you could do a “mocktail reception”, maybe even have some signature drinks ALCOHOL FREE made up to be served in fancy glasses, with your food, I doubt anyone will miss the alcohol.. Just wait and do it at the recpetion, that way you save money, and more importantly lives!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I don’t have a problem with the two different locations…. but having alcohol and driving immediately after? That’s a no-no. Have non-alcohol drinks with some hors d’oeuvres for the cocktail hour and serve the alcohol at the reception.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@MrsDavid2bee:  Really, I think it’s best to avoid the issue altogether by not serving alcohol at that site, and saving it for the reception…. And if your guests are “light drinkers”, realistically, they’re not going to miss it if it is replaces with yummy mocktails and great food. People will understand.

Personally, if I am driving, I will not have anything to drink… if any of your guest think that way, or think, “hey I have to drive in 45 mins, I’m not going to drink”, then you will lose money having paid for bar service.

Plus, it’s just an hour right (maybe a little more), if people can’t survive that long without booze, there’s another problem entirely! LOL

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Where will you be during cocktail hour?

If you are mingling with guests, or having photos taken at the ceremony site, it is fine, because you’ll all head to the reception site together.

If you are going elsewhere to have photos taken, then cocktails at the ceremony venue doesn’t really make sense, because guests don’t know when to leave for the reception. To me, the whole point of cocktail hour is so your guests aren’t stuck if/when they arrive at the reception venue before you.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsDavid2bee:  In that case I recommend you do serve drinks at the ceremony venue. People will (probably) be staying around the ceremony venue – certainly some will, because they will need to be in some photos. I suggest a choice of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. Guests will know they have to drive to the reception, and can decide themselves whether to drink alcohol, or how much.

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