(Closed) Impulsive bridesmaid decision…

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
255 posts
Helper bee

I think suck it up. I’m sure these feelings will pass and things will settle down – weddings are stressful and it sounds like the drama from the other ex-friend is bubbling over and almost contaminating your feelings towards this other girl. Stick it out and if things actually get uncomfortable or problematic then decide what to do 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 4
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i totally understand you because i totally did the same thing. i asked my BMs too quickly without thinking it through and if i could go back in time, i would change it all up. in particular i asked a girl because i felt i had to, but we are not as close as we used to be and i feel weird she is in my bridal party.

i did this over a year ago and it took  me a long time to come to terms with it. but really there is nothing else u can do. like u said, you can’t just kick her out. the friend i asked has now turned out to be the most excited about my wedding. which is really nice.  its more fun to talk to her about wedding stuff than it is my Maid/Matron of Honor or 2 of my bestest friends who i feel just don’t care as much.

so who knows, maybe at some point, you will be happy with your choice. and just think, on THE DAY, will you actually be UPSET that this girl is a  BM? or will you be more neutral and perhaps not care all that much?  i mean, one thing i think about to make myself feel better is that i know this girl will not ruin my wedding in any way and she won’t bring me down on my wedding day…so what does it really matter?

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