- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
So I am a very impulsive person, and I basically jumped the gun and didn’t think things through before asking a couple of girls to be in my wedding party.
I am going to have my sister, FI’s sister, two college friends who I’ve become very close with, and another old friend. My best friend Jennifer is going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I recently had a falling out with my oldest friend because I didn’t choose her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, and she is no longer speaking to me (long, ridiculous story). So, I always assumed she’d be in my wedding, but as I have come to find out, weddings bring out the worst in people and many friendships end because of wedding drama.
I am very happy and excited to be having Jennifer, my sister, and FI’s sister in the bridal party. I’m also excited about my college friends. They seem to be very excited as well, but I have only recently become close with them, and sometimes I feel kind of weird that I asked them because we really havent known each other long. However, we have all become very close in a short period of time, so I guess it’s not TOO weird that I asked them. They were also there for me to share in my excitement when I got engaged, and we talked about it ALL the time beforehand when I had suspisions that I was getting proposed to soon.
The old friend that I asked is my main concern right now. I asked her on a whim, mostly because I sort of felt like I had to. I wasn’t in her wedding, which is totally fine, but we have talked a few times about wedding stuff concerning my planning, and she has shared some experiences with me from her wedding. We aren’t that close, and she is also friends with the girl who I had the falling out with about the Maid/Matron of Honor position. Every time I think about her being in my wedding now, I get an anxious feeling, like something isn’t right. I don’t know what it is, and I don’t really know what to do. I don’t think I can just tell her, “Actually, you’re not in my bridal party anymore,” because that’s just messed up. It’s my fault I asked her on a whim, I definitely should have thought it through first. She hasn’t done anything to warrant being “kicked out” but I jsut have this feeling that I made the wrong choice.
I don’t want to be childish, but I just really don’t feel right about choosing her, and I am kicking myself in the butt for not thinking it through. Do I just suck it up and deal with it? Or what…? Because I can’t think of any other solutions.