Post # 1
Good morning Bees! I need to have a bit of a pity party/vent. As some of you may know, I am having a Destination Wedding in Jamaica in less than 4 months and mostly everything has been done (i.e. – make-up/hair stylist booked, photographer booked, dress, purchased, bridesmaids dresses purchased, invitations sent, etc.). The only thing I really have left to do is wait for the final number of attendees so that I can order stuff for the Out of Town bags and decor for tables. Overall, this has been a fairly easy wedding to plan. But that being said, it has also sucked in the sense that NO ONE askes me ANYTHING about the wedding. My Fiance doesn’t care about the details and thinks it’s a waste to spend money on any kind of decor when we will be on a beautiful beach (um..hello the reception will be indoors in a restaurant and I would like to look a little more special than every other night). My bridal party has completely fallen off the face of the Earth and never asks me anything. Basically, I have no one to talk to about the wedding. This isn’t a complaint about my bridal party not kissing my butt or running around doing things for me, it’s about the disappointment in the lack of “buzz” (for lack of a better word) around this event. I know no one will be as excited as me for our wedding but still, I guess I’m just not feeling very bridal at the moment and time is flying by so fast and this will all be over before I know it.
I feel like because I’m not doing cake tastings and DJ auditions and what not that people have fogotten the fact that I’m getting married and could use a little bridal excitement. Any other Destination Wedding brides feel this way?
Post # 3
Yes! I felt like this a bit. My mother was unable to communicate with me because of an illness so that was really hard to not have her input.
I LOVED my destination wedding and everyday we are SOOO happy that we did it and believe we made the right choice 105%. There were times where we questioned our choice for sure. We only had 40 people attend after all but it was sooo PERFECT in every way. Our friends that attended are still talking about it today and they made connections with each other and have been hanging out together back home. It’s so cool cause they prolly wouldn’t have talked at all if we had a huge 200 person wedding.
Anyway, I did have friends who were put off by our destination wedding idea. They obviously were the ones that A. Had never been married before and B. Did not attend our wedding. So man of our friends who had been married before TOTALLY understood why we were doing what we were doing! They rocked and were soo supportive!
Another point: It is so true that you can not be have Type A personality and have a destination wedding and with that being said that is probably a reason you do not have a bunch of people fussing over you and your wedding. Can I guess you are a low maintenance gal? No fuss to be had right ?
Are you having a wedding shower? I didn’t have one but I did have a bachlorette party that was a blast.
There’s time and you’ll get some attention closer to the date. 😉
PS- I had absolutely NO decor and that was just perfect- I kinda agree with your Fiance on that one. Don’t stress yourself over that stuff!
Post # 4
@VegasSukie: sorry to hear this. I am not as far down the road as you with your Destination Wedding yet so noone really knows much so havent asked me. I hope you get more of a buzz about it soon.
@elimel123: what were you saying about type A personality, I got confused lol, do people say you cant have Destination Wedding if you are one?
Post # 5
@elimel123: Thanks for your response. I’m pretty no fuss when it comes to stuff like weddings. I’ve never had a big event before (i.e. – no sweet 16 or big graduation celebrations) so I really don’t know what I’m doing or what I should expect. I only know what I’ve witnessed with others’ events and that’s not what I’ve been experiencing at all. I guess that’s what it boils down to. I didn’t consider the fact that there is not much to get excited about for a Destination Wedding until probably a week before you leave. Either way, I’ve gotten the sense knocked into me by the Bees last week and no longer feel as bad about the wedding. I mean, I kinda still do, but I know that a.) no one is going to be as excited about this wedding as Fiance and I are b.) the bridal party isn’t obligated to do anything for you except be present the day of the wedding and c.) none of this really matters anyway, all that matters is I’m marrying my best friend.
All that being said, thank you for being so kind and understanding in your response. I really appreciate it. If I can ever do the same for you, feel free to PM me.
Post # 6
I totally understand. I’m having a Destination Wedding too, although its in the US. I’m booking all my vendors far in advance because that’s the only time I can meet with them- going back for my 2nd visit this weekend and won’t be back until January. Its almost like people don’t get involved unless you stress out about each detail!
I think your BMs will get more excited closer to the wedding.
Post # 7
I know exactly how you feel!! I am getting married in Mexico in May and none of my friends are going so they act like my wedding isn’t even happening! No one ever asks me anything about or offers to help me do anything for it! I am having a reception back at home in July (only to please my parents) and everyone is looking at that like my wedding! It’s very frustrating!!
Post # 8
@kitkat863: Well you can always PM me if you need an opinion or to vent or just someone to get excited for your awesome Mexico wedding! Look at the bright side, at least there isn’t as much to do with a Destination Wedding.
Post # 9
@VegasSukie: I may have to do that!! I love that there isn’t much to do!! I can just sit back and relax and not worry too much over wedding stuff!! 🙂