(Closed) In a panic about my dress – long

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, I don’t think you should stick with a dress you don’t like, just because you have it.  You can still get a dress in 4 months, you’ll probably  need to pay extra though to have it rushed.  I actually really like the second alfred angelo dress you showed!  But if its too much bling, you can’t force yourself to like it.  And I think the first one would feel more comfortable with a bigger bust.  So, have you seen that dress in person?  I know you said they didn’t have a dress in your size but if you were able to look at it, see the fabric and the way it was made?  If not, I’d be hesitant to order it.  I ordered it blindly and I don’t like the dress I got- oops!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Since you “hate” the dress you bought, I definitely think you should get another one ASAP.  I really like the first dress you posted a link for, and I think the off the shoulder look will actually help balance out your larger chest.  I love the simplicity of it too.  The second dress you posted is pretty also, but I see what you are saying about the bling…if it’s not your style then just don’t do it.  You alreaady got yourself into a pickle by listening to others and purchasing the other dress – now it’s time to only listen to what YOU want! 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, first of all, let me say… your dress is so not at all what I was expecting reading your description. I don’t think it’s 80’s or childish at all. HOWEVER, if you FEEL that way, it tells me it’s not the right dress.  It does look nice on you, and I bet it looks even better now on your “new” body… but, if you feel like a 12 year old, uh, that’s a good sign you’re not going to love it by your wedding day.

The first dress you linked too I personally don’t think will compliment you at all, and I’d rather see you stick to your original.  I know some Bee’s with your build have ordered dress off the shoulder and similar to that, so, please don’t take this personally if your reading this and you have.  ok, disclaimer over…. The off the shoulder sleeve is going to “cut” your arm…. You have a nice chest and gorgeous broad shoulders, but, by cutting it where the sleeves will fall it will make your arms shorter and stumpy and will make your shoulders/chest seem MORE broad.  I’ve honestly never seen that kind of sleeve flatter many people, size 6 or 16 and anywhere inbetween.  The size 2 model that’s 5’11” maybe sometimes has a chance, but otherwise, I’ve never seen it that flattering, especially on a “real” woman. And I have tried them on myself, and I am 5’11” and it made me look more broad and stumpier arms.

The 2nd dress you linked is really gorgeous. Have you tried it one? My one hesitation is that sometimes the way the top is cut sometimes makes women with lots of cleavage get the “side boob” or pushes the girls in a way that isn’t flattering to them or you ๐Ÿ˜‰ Maybe add a strap to it?  BUT, I think that dress, will make you feel like a glamorous woman and not a dainty 12 year old in the 80’s.

I don’t think it’s “too much.”

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

To be honest I’m not in love with the dress you bought either. From looking at the dresss you are interested in, that dress doesn’t compare. You have to feel beautiful on your wedding day.

Hmmmm… I think I would go with the second one, unless you can call around and try on the sample for the first Alred Angelo dress. I’m just afraid that if you order a dress that you haven’t tried on, you might not like it at all and then you’ll be really stuck.

I would first start by searching everywhere for the first dress. There might be a shop in the surrounding areas where you can try it on. I really like the second dress, but I’m a little worried that you don’t like the bling. I personally think it is beautiful and you want to stand out and shine, but you also need to feel comfortable.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t know anything about ordering dresses and such – but I am large busted (38DtoDD depending on how in shape I am) and am wearing an off-the-shoulder dress. I’m confident that with the right bra and double sided tape I won’t make it on youtube’s most embarrasing wedding list.

Having said that, I’m showing a little bit of cleavage. I’m sorry but we have big boobs and they don’t always fit into other people’s terms of modesty. To me, it looks like in the dress you bought, you were going for modesty. If you can, I would go for what makes you feel best. . .

Edit: That wasn’t in response to anyone’s post – I was typing while other people posted. For my body (and the wonder of pushup bras) the off the shoulder works.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hey – I see you’re getting married in DC.  Just a suggestion – there is a Alfred Angelo store in Glen Burnie, MD which is probably about an hour drive from DC so it’d be worth a call.  Also there is a huge Alfred Angelo store out in LaValle, MD.  It’s about a 2 hours drive from DC probably and it’s up in the sticks BUT they may have it and if you’re dying to try on that dress it’s an option.  Worth a call to both at least, right? (Oh there is also a huge David’s Bridal about a 1/2 mile from the AA store in Glen Burnie).

I was in love with that first Alfred Angelo dress before I went shopping too.  Unfortunately the store I tried it on at only had a size 22 (Columbia Bridal Boutique in Columbia, MD)!! It was so huge on me I couldn’t get an idea of what it looked like.  I did end up with something completely different…but not before having my own dress freak out.  I bought a dress that my sister loved and I wasn’t 100% sold on it – 2 days later I woke up in a panic and called the shop to see if it was too late to change.  Thankfully it wasn’t and I ended up buying a completely different dress that I LOVE and am so excited to wear.  I guess my point is that if I had to wear the first dress I wouldn’t be nearly as excited about the big day – all eyes will be on you so you HAVE to love what you’re wearing.

Good luck! Hope one of those stores works out for you. But don’t settle! Get what you will feel beautiful in! This huge day is something we’ve all waited our whole lives for….it’s not worth it to settle on a dress you won’t be happy in!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Polkadot,
I did the same thing – got caught up in the excitement and bought a dress I wasn’t completely sure about but my mom loved.  I picked up the original dress in January (wedding is in April) and ended up buying a new dress a few weeks ago.  I couldn’t get a rush order so I called 20 different stores and found a sample in my size.  I haven’t thought twice about spending the extra money because I got the peace of mind I needed.

Get a new dress if you’re that unsure about it.  This is your day and you should feel absolutely beautiful.

Good luck!

Post # 13
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m another one who thinks you need to love your dress, not just not hate it.  But like some of the other people mentioned, I’m not sure the first AA dress is right for you.  You don’t like how your current dress makes your bust look bigger, and I think that that is because of the v-neck, and the first AA dress also has a v-neck though it’s not quite the same.  V-neck is what I go for to make my little b-cups look bigger, and I think you might be better off with something that is more straight across like the second AA dress though of course if that is too much bling for you it won’t work either.  Don’t worry too much about style of dress vs style of wedding – if you’re a bit more formal or glam, well, you’re the bride!  No one will be surprised!  Loving the dress is the most important thing. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ooh good – that’s where I ended up getting my dress.  They have a LOT of stuff that can fit someone who’s not a size 2!  I was a 12/14 when I went shopping there and they had a TON of stuff to try on!  They also have a lot in the $1K and less catagory which is nice!  I ended up with the Maggie Sotterro Libby and am so happy with it.  I hope you have a good experience there! (they even dim the lights for you so you can see how it will look in the evening!)

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

No problem!  Good luck!!

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