(Closed) In a Perfect World…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Good Luck, Dear! 

And to answer your question, my Fiance bought the ring first. However, he never really had to officially ask my dad…. at a family gathering my dad once told him that he didn’t need to ask, he already had permission from him. Then at another gathering, my dad (a bit more drunk this time) asked “So, when are you going to marry my daughter?” 

My family adores my Fiance, so after almost 4 years of dating they figured it was about time. 

He did show my parents the ring the night before he proposed, though πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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2742 posts
Sugar bee

Gwen I’ve been reading and following your posts and you really do chart some of the feelings I go through with my guy. I hope everything works out for you. And how did that baking turn out? I’m at work and I wish I had a lil’ something πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Regarding the talking to parents/buying a ring question, my guy talked to my parents before he was seriously looking into rings (talked to them back in May, when I’m SURE he didn’t have a ring). That was also because we were moving to a new city together, and my parents were expressing disapproval at “our” lack of official commitment. 

I hate to be a downer, but sometime the jewelry buying process takes a while. I know my guy has been actively working on it for at least 2.5 months…. and I’m still waiting. I hope for your sake that after your guy gets going he wont be able to wait and will propose quickly!!  I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Hmmm…Good luck hon! I did some backing yesterday too. Rachael Ray’s mango rum tartlets, the recipe is in this month’s Thanksgiving issue. If you’re interested you can PM me and I’ll scan it for you πŸ™‚ my first experience with puff pastry and they turned out pretty well.

I’ve been following too. I hope it happens for you soon and I know it’s SO frustrating. Here’s hoping that he was “up to something” when he said he was getting the license stickers business handled…

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Oh how I hope he was being sneaky. Here’s to hoping he’s having the talk with your dad soon.

Good luck and happy thanksgiving.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Man’s POV

First, Happy Thanksgiving! Why does Canada have a Thanksgiving, I thought just the states celebrated stealing land???

To answer your question, I spoke to Miss Coffee’s grandfather before even buying the ring (Father is not in the picture). I knew he would approve, but I was raised with understanding that some old school traditions you just don’t mess with.

However, I will tell you that even if you can say “my dad would say yes” or “of course he would approve”… the actual conversation… that big one on one… is enough to make a statue nervous.

The key in my last sentence is “one on one”; most guys, want the environment to just right. It has to be the right timing, place, and even sometimes… the right alcoholic beverage. πŸ™‚

If I read your post correctly, you anticipated him asking at your families annual golf outing. However, it could just be that being in a setting where it’s more than just Boyfriend or Best Friend and father… meaning a bunch of other guys… then it may not be the right place to have that big one on one.

Secondly, many guys do in fact buy the ring first. Because, even if you don’t believe me… for some fathers, already having the ring is an automatic sign of financial security.

Hang in there Gwen!

Mr Coffee πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hope today went well! 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hmmmm… he disappeared for part of the afternoon.. πŸ™‚ That’s definitely encouraging. I’ve been rooting for you and following your posts too. I really hope he had a convo with your dad today. I agree that it’d be the perfect opportunity, even better if he had a second to get him alone so they could talk in private.

Let us know what happens! Hopefully October is your month! You’ve definitely put in your time! Good luck πŸ™‚

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