- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
So I have already picked 3 of my 5 girls for BM’s. My best friend Heather is my Maid/Matron of Honor, my future SIL Carrie (I love her she is so awesome!), and my 15 year old cousin Reagan.
Here is what I am running into. 2 of the girls that I thought would always be a part of my wedding I have decided not to have them be in it. One I have only talked to 3-4 times over the last 1 1/2 years, and every time I come into town and ask her if she wants to meet up, my calls and texts get ignored. The only time she has really responded back was when I told her I was engaged. The other and I have had a falling out after her wedding and feel that it would be too much drama to wait around for her to decide if she wants to be a part of it (she told me that at this time she wouldn’t want to be a BM).
So now I am between 4 girls that I am friends with, but not really super close with.
The first is the wife of a groomsmen who I am getting to know and like alot. We haven’t hung out without the guys, she is really shy, but when we do hang out we have a lot of fun.
The second is a girlfriend of one of the groomsmen. She and I are closer, but I am much closer with her Boyfriend or Best Friend. The problem there is he has discussed with my Fiance and I that he has wanted to end the relationship. They have been on and off since high school and are currently living together. She keeps saying they are getting married in December, he has told her they wouldn’t even get close to getting married until she graduates. She has gone to some college classes, then dropped out. That’s a whole nother fish to fry. Anyway, I am afraid of what may happen if they break up and we have them both in the wedding. He has already said he wouldn’t be bothered by it, but knowing their situation, I know he will be paying for all of his stuff and alot of hers. Has anyone else run into the bridal party having ex’s?
The third is a girl that I used to work with and we went through our MRI course together. She and I still go out to lunch and that every once in a while (she is now working at a different facility) and I love her to death, but she has a family and doosn’t really know any of the other people in my party and I don’t know if she would be comfortable.
Finally is a girl who are parents have been friends for years and so have we. Our families have gone on vacation and gone to parties together, but she and I don’t really hang out or talk much, but when we do we have a blast!
I am having such a hard time deciding because I like all of these girls. Has any one else had this kind of a situation? And how did you decide? Any input would be truly helpful! Thanks Bees!