(Closed) In all HONESTY….

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
2476 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Awww I’m so sorry for all you’ve had to go through.  It’s ok that your wedding day wasn’t perfect (but I understand the DESIRE for it to be perfect).  Try to look on the bright side of things.  There’s lots that you can’t control now, and what’s done is done.  But I’m sure you have tons of great memories from your wedding and honeymoon… don’t concentrate on the bad ones!  As  for the photos… that sucks!  I would request for copies of ALL 300 shots (like on a CD).  Also, have you tried to contact close friends and family for their pics?  I’m sure they have some great ones.  πŸ™‚

Post # 4
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I am so sorry! Personally, I dont feel that should have been the photographers call to toss any photos out! I would be devasted too!

I felt somewhat the way you do but it has surpassed me and in due time it will. I had a very small, non traditional ceremony as I did not want to 1. Spend the money 2. Never dreamed of a big ceremony (partly due to I get severe anxiety being the focus even if it is family) 3. It just was not Darling Husband and I. Well I feel I never heard the end of it about not going traditional. Then everything was fine until after our little ceremony and my sis and I got in a heated drawn out dispute bc my feelings were hurt over certain actions I thought were selfish and really it seemed my friends were more concerned with watching a NASCAR race then spending time with us on wedding day. We have since talked through it and are in a better place, it only took about 7 mths. I am no longer angry but I will always hold something about the way my friends acted and it has put a strain on and changed our friendships. I dont hold grudges but lets just say that taking a week worths of vacation for my friends wedding this fall and the preceding shower is not my priority.

This is exactly why I dont understand when some get so wrapped up in the wedding. It is just one day, yes I understand a huge day in your life but for me my marriage is so much more. If anything the mess afterwards helped my Darling Husband and I bc we were able to sit down and evaluate whats really important and whos really important to us.

Post # 5
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Im so sorry your wedding wasnt as perfect as you pictured! I am actually really really scared of this happening to me. We are having a long engagement and honestly after every wedding we go to, it makes me want to elope more. I know it sounds bad, but Im not even sure I want a wedding at all. I think the true meaning was lost somewhere in all the hoopla. I think I might be ok with having a Destination Wedding with just a small amount of people.

PS: I would be FURIOUS at the photographer. So unprofessional.

Post # 6
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh yikes.  I’m really sorry–what a hot mess!  I don’t have any real advice except to say I think ddubzz has a great idea about photos.   I’ll bet your family and friends have a lot of great candid shots that will help fill out the measly 30(!) pro photos.  Have you considered a photosharing site like picassa, snapfish, or shutterfly?  You can create an account and people can upload their pictures directly to it.  This would save the hassle of trying to email and organize photos.  I’m guessing that somewhere on the boards here people have reviewed photosharing sites and can give you an idea of what works best.  Then you can send a mass email to all your guests (or include a note in the thank you cards) inviting them to upload any pictures they took.  If you explain that there were problems with the photographer (although I don’t know if you want to discuss it) I’m sure people will be extra happy to share their photos with you!  And even if you don’t explain the situation, I’ll bet your guests would be happy to post whatever pics they have. 

Post # 7
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am so sorry this all happened to you!  You have every right to be upset and you do not sound like you are complaining rather than just venting which we all do!  I hope everything works out well with your grandfather!!!  best wishes πŸ™‚


At the very least..you married the man you love!

Post # 9
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Um, I would not pay that photog at all. at ALL. 

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