Post # 1
I’ve heard different things so I want to hear people’s experiences.
Here’s mine: I’ve been in 3 weddings: Best friend (25+ years ago), she said “Tradition is BMs buy their dresses” so I did. Me (20+ years ago) I paid, partly because I’m not good at asking for money. My mum (about 5 years ago) paid, but she’s like that; e.g. she always pays for us when we go out for a meal. Also I wasn’t in my sister’s wedding (too close to my baby’s birth) but I’m pretty sure her BMs paid.
So 2/3 times the bride paid (2/4 if you count my sister), but I’m not sure if my experience is typical.
Over to you ladies… what really is the Australian tradition here?
Post # 3
The weddings I’ve been in, I’ve paid for my own dress. My sister bought her dress for my wedding.
Post # 4
I think it depends on the bride, but I paid for my girls dresses, and when I was a bridesmaide the bride paid for me. I think it is nice to pay for the dresses, but then I didn’t buy gifts, just there jewlery which they could keep to use again and I paid for their hair and make up.
Post # 5
I think that “back in the old days” the bride used to pay for the dresses. However, most of the time the bridesmaids were your sisters so your parents paid for them because they were paying for the wedding.
Now days I think it depends, if you have your heart set on a $250+ dress then I really think that you should be buying the dresses for them because that it pretty pricey. OR if the bridesmaids really dislike their dresses but you really want them then I think that you should pay for it because they aren’t going to wear it again. But if the dresses are sub $200 or so (depending on how flashy they are) and they really like them and will wear them again, I do think that they should pay for them.
I agreed to being a Maid/Matron of Honor earlier this year already anticipating that I would have to buy my dress. I think that most people do. If you don’t pay for their dress I think it’s nice to pay for their hair/makeup or split the cost of the dress perhaps.
Post # 6
I voted on what I hope to do which is to pay for them… I feel like because I asked them I should try my best to fit their dresses at least in the budget! Depending what we go for, I would hope to pay for dress, shoes and jewellery and they can pay hair and makeup if they want it.
The reason for this is one of my bridesmaids was a bridesmaid in another wedding and when she added up all the things she had to pay for it cost her $1800! I just could not do that to my nearest friends.
That said, majority do ask them to pay!
Post # 7
I hope to pay for my BMs’ dresses
Post # 8
i can only speak from my experiences and that is that the bridesmaid pays for their dress but the bride pays for shoes, jewellery, hair makeup ect
Post # 9
in my experience. i have had to pay for my own being a bridesmaid. my Maid/Matron of Honor is paying for her own, she wouldnt have it any other way. my other BMs are my daughters so i am paying for theirs obviously.
Post # 10
@paula1248: I’ve been a bridesmaid twice now with once having my dress, hair and make up paid for while the other time we wore whatever we liked so the bride didn’t pay for our dresses but did buy our accessories for us. I will be paying for my three bridesmaids dresses, hair and makeup since I want them in a specific dress that they might never wear again (I would like to think I have good taste and they will! lol but of course they might not as well) I do beleive that the bride should pay for the dresses but of course you should do whatever you are comfortable with and within your budget 🙂
Post # 11
bumping for the evening crowd. Thanks to all who’ve replied so far.
Post # 12
I’m buying the dresses for my BM’s. They can wear whatever shoes they want/already have and I’ll also be paying for their hair and makeup.
Post # 13
I’ve always paid & my mates have all paid when they’ve been BMs.
I plan to pay $150ea for my 2 girls (my sister & step-daughter) but I don’t care what dress they get, so if they want a more expensive dress, they’re happy to pay the difference. I’m also going to pay $50ea for shoes, plus hair & makeup (already got their hair pieces when I got my own).
Post # 14
My girls paid for their dress and shoes but I paid for their bolero, wrap, jewellery and hair and makeup. Their dresses were $360 and their shoes less than $50.
Post # 15
i think it depends – all of the ‘traditional’ weddings the bride has paid for the BM’s. I’m hoping that the BM’s will pay for my wedding as i’d like a mis-matched theme -so they can essentially wear what they like (with some limitations), & buy what they like.
Post # 16
my cousin paid for the bm dresses. i think it depends on individual as some brides only ask bm to wear dress of certain colour while others got to have the same style and colour. it also depends on how xpensive is the dress is