(Closed) in good taste…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You should invite the officiant and their spouse.

Is your photographer taking photo’s during the reception?? We had a meal set aside for ours, but he ended up not eating and just taking pics throughout.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was wondering this also. If one does invite them, where do they sit? Do they sit with the other guests?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mrsaponte: We didn’t send him a formal invitation, but we made sure to tell our photographer that he was more than welcome to help himself to food and drinks. Our officiant was also a dear friend of ours, so he would have been invited anyways. We had a rather casual buffet reception with no seating chart; our photographer had a quick bite to eat but spent most of his time taking pictures obviously. 🙂

Good luck figuring this one out! Just figured I would share my personal experience. 🙂

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had a plate for the photographers since you want them to stay around and take photos.  I didn’t invite the officiant though.  Unless it was a personal friend or someone through your church, I don’t think they would expect to be invited.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I agree, invite the officiant and his/her spouse.  I would imagine your photographer will still be working and taking photos for your through the reception, right?  In that case just have a vendor meal available – the venue/caterer should have something in their contract about feeding vendors, what kind of meals they get, where they eat their meals, etc.

Usually I see the officiant seated at the table with the parents, especially since they are often in a position of honor as a minister, rabbi, judge, what have you.  But I think it depends.  If you are having a family member get ordained or deputized by the state to officiate, I’m sure you can have him/her sit wherever he/she would be most comfortable during the reception, like with his/her own immediate family.

ETA – I’m not totally sure how this goes, though, if you’re hiring a random officiant.  In that case, if you have no personal ties to them, I wonder if they’d just be treated as any other vendor, with whom you have a purely business relationship, and not invited to the reception.  I have no idea.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

@mrsaponte: Who is your officiant/where did you find him/her?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think it depends. If the officiant is someone you know (friend, church pastor, priest) etc, then you should probably invite. But if it’s just someone you hired for the wedding ceremony, then no, you don’t need to invite them.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It’s polite to extend an invitation. I would imagine that, since they are not close friends or anything, they will decline. But I think it’s always a good thing to treat vendors like real people and be considerate of them.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

My SO’s Dad is a pastor, and according to my SO it is always a good idea to invite the officiant (and their wife/husband if they have one).  He generally goes to the reception if they are a member of his church otherwise he will usually politely decline.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Photographer and officiant are most definitely not invited to the sit down meal. It would be weird to have someone i’ve only met that day to stay to a meal that some who I know better were not invited to, due to funds.

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