In grad school and have the worst baby fever!

posted 3 months ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Helper bee

It’s harder but doable. I had my daughter sophomore year of undergrad, my son my first year of medical school (I’m a 3rd year) and plan to have my next baby probably around 2nd year of residency. 

If you have a great support system with your husband and you’re really dedicated to both your career and family then you can definitely make it work. Time management is definitely a big factor too. 

Good luck. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I know a lot of people who’ve had kids while doing doctorates. It’s doable if youre financially and emotionally positioned well.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

naturalbee18 :  Do you have a superpower? 

I can not imagine a scenario where I could do med school + have two kids concurrently. Tip of my hat to you.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I feel you bee. We are turning 27 this year and I am about to continue my education and start a PhD, which will take 3-4 years plus 1 year of residency. We have been married 2 years already and definitely won’t be able to hold off on TTC until after I graduate! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I had my son in my first year of my doctoral program. We’re now TTC again and I’m getting ready to start my third year. It’s hard but doable if you have the right supports, like good daycare, a spouse who does 50% of the parenting and housework, and a supervisor/program that allows some flexibility. If you do have a child while doing your graduate program though, you might want to prepare to add a year or two to the planned time. I’m taking my comprehensive exams a few months later than if I hadn’t had to take recovery time postpartum. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Also I know a ton of academic moms. There are still some who think that being in academia means you shouldn’t have a family, but most programs are people are becoming more open. I fired my PhD supervisor because she kept making nasty comments about my choice to have a child, and now I have a great supervisor who is a mom herself and really supports me in both areas. It’s definitely not all bad.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

Hey, bee. I have a year left of my phd program. I cannot imagine having a child right after I finish, since the years directly after your degree are critical if you want to stay in academia.

I have a friend who had two children during grad school. Her husband was also in our program!! Somehow, they managed raising two boys with their limited student stipend. Their parents are on the other side of the country, so they did this all without their help! Another one of my friends had a baby during her dissertation year (5th year) but she had a lot of support from her husband, who is in a very well paid profession.

Actually, I’ve heard from multiple people that having a baby during grad school is better than right after because you technically don’t need to “take time off” and have a gap on your cv once you start applying to jobs.  It is isn’t easy, but its doable because after the 1-2 year-phase of coursework, your time is your own to do what you please with it and manage your hours how they best suit you (unless your advisor is difficult). It takes a lot of discpline, though. I would not be able to make that kind of sacrifice, but it certainly is possible and has been done.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

sbl99 :  haha. Thanks but no super power here just a great husband, understanding family, and awesome mentors who did everything in their power to help me along my journey. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

mrsdogmama0618 :  Feel free to PM me if you want to chat about it more.

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