Post # 1
Just curious for those of you who have gotten the proposal…
In hindsight, were there any signs before the propsal? Did he start talking about certain topics (marriage, children, etc.)? Or did he stay away from them? Did his behavior, mood, or attitude change in the weeks before the proposal?
Post # 3
he made comments like “if you would just work with me!” after I voiced my concerns (yet again) about his timing because of my work. I was completely oblivious and was complete surprised.
Post # 4
@strawbs: how long after he said that did he propose? Was he saying that because you were concerned about your work or when you two would get engaged? (Sorry…I wasn’t sure from the post)
Post # 5
– he told his parents he was going to marry me. & then told me that he had told him.
– he was suppose to pick me up for a day together (which was his idea) and was late i was super pissed cause i rushed home from work. he was out with his best friend. ( i was even more mad) THEY WERE OUT FREAKIN RING SHOPPING FOR ME !
Post # 6
I had no surprises when he proposed, I helped pick out the ring a couple months beforehand. Plus we were going on a trip to see some of his relatives that don’t live here, my first time meeting those ones, so I pretty much knew when to expect the actual question.
Post # 7
The fact my hands were freezing cold and he freaked out when I put my hands in his toasty warm jacket pockets to defrost them! Hahahah I was who weirded out why he was upset w me!
Post # 8
@cupcake920: When he said that, he proposed the next morning. He said what he said because he had been trying to propose to me for a couple months but I wasn’t cooperating ahhaa. I was concerned because I didn’t want to get engaged during a time when I knew I was going to have to plan a wedding through crunch time at work.
I had already gone ring shopping and knew he had the ring.
Post # 9
For the few weeks before he got really “lovey” always wanting a hug telling me how much he loves me texting me 24/7 to tell me how much he misses me when he was away from. The day of he was looking at honeymoons on the computer and I didnt think anything of it at the time.
Post # 10
We definitely discussed possible marriage and whatnot before the proposal.
The biggest sign, though, was the 3 voicemails and 4 emails asking what my ring size was =P
Post # 11
We had a very open engagement process, so I knew every step along the way. We knew we were going to get married long before he ever proposed. The ring just made it “official”.
Post # 12
Our proposal was planned a year in advance. We knew that in spring 2011 we’d get engaged. However, I did not know HOW or exactly WHEN he was going to do it (other than between March 21 and June 20.
I requested that I have a ring (which I showed him online along with my ring size) and a real proposal – despite knowing roughly when we’d get engaged. I really wanted that since I did not have that for my first marriage. He was fine with me picking out my ring (which I did online) as he did not want to guess what I liked and mess it up.
So no, I did not notice any differences in his behavior at all or signs. It wasn’t a guessing game with us! I knew it was coming, but it was still exciting and he did so great with the proposal – I will remember it for ever!
“Did he start talking about certain topics (marriage, children, etc.)?”
Do you mean like marriage was not discussed prior? I certainly hope a couple thinking of marriage would have these kinds of discussions prior. I would not accept a proposal from a man who didn’t openly discuss marriage, the children issue, etc first.
Post # 13
There were a couple signs…
He started asking me what size diamond I’d most prefer. I kept telling him 1/3 of a carat or a 1/2. Then he would get this weird, relieved look on his face.
A week before he proposed he wanted to take me to The Gorge the next weekend which is a huge, beautiful park with streams and caves. BUT it was in the middle of February, 18 degrees out with 3 feet of snow on the ground.
I kind of knew something was up then.
Post # 14
@sienna76: I meant did he start bringing it up more frequently? We have had plenty of discussions about marriage and children, but recently he has been bringing the two up more on his own. “When we have kids.” “When we get married, I want this at the wedding or I don’t want this.” “We could get this person to DJ or this place to cater.”
Post # 15
The day he proposed, he kept talking about how happy he was with “us” and our relationship. And I mean talking about it a LOT, not just a passing comment or two. Enough to where I noticed.
The days/weeks before he proposed (and in my case, he had the ring for months so I can add “months” to that) he did talk about our future and wanted to know my thoughts on having children, how many, how I’d want to raise them (like my reaction to this or that situation), financial things, and our families meeting up and stuff.
Probably pretty typical! 🙂
Post # 16
It was toooo obvious haha. Didn’t make me any less thrilled, though!