Post # 1
We have been planning our wedding for over a year and it is now only two weeks away. I knew my FI’s family always has some drama going on, but I figured for the one day, they could put it all aside… however now I don’t think that is going to happen.
Today my future SIL decided to send my fiance a bunch of texts saying that she hasn’t bought her plane ticket yet & will not buy one unless Fiance defriends her ex-husband on facebook.
Long story here – She has two kids with the ex, who is not an american citizen and got deported a few years ago. So the only way to contact the ex is through facebook. SIL has since remarried a very controlling man & he won’t let the kids or SIL have any contact with their dad. However, the rest of the family views this as wrong & is still friends with the ex. So now, SIL & her husband are using the fact that my Fiance is still friends with the ex as a reason to not come to our wedding.
Is this not the stupidest thing you have ever heard? I seriously can’t believe that they are pulling this on us two weeks before our freakin wedding.
Fiance has decided he is not going to defriend the ex & is bascially calling her bluff… so now I’m guessing she won’t be coming. We have blocked my FI’s friend list, so she can’t see it. And now I just noticed that she defriended me! Ugh this is so immature & highschool I can’t handle it. Sorry for the long vent!
Post # 3
I saw “Today my future SIL decided to send my fiance a bunch of texts saying that she hasn’t bought her plane ticket yet & will not buy one unless Fiance defriends her ex-husband on facebook.”
…and burst out laughing.
Post # 5
Seriously? How immature is that? Good grief. I certainly wouldn’t play into petty games like that. If your Fiance being friends with someone on Facebook is enough to deter his sister from attending his wedding then it doesn’t sound like she really wants to be there anyway. I’d tell her to suck it up or stay home.
Post # 6
Ah, FB where friendships go to die.
But still this seems like there is something more to the SIL’s story I mean why now all of a sudden is she demanding your Fiance take her ex-husband off of his friend’s list? I wonder if she is just trying to find a way to not come for other reasons.
If she ends up not coming it won’t be that big of a deal right? I mean it could be just one person not going for inapproperiate reasons, so no one will really notice her since it seems clear the family isn’t happy with her husband’s choice of being so controlling anyway.
The point is this: You don’t have to take anyone off of Facebook because someone else doesn’t like it, and your wedding is two weeks away – CONGRATS! Be happy, this is a time to finish last minute things you need to get done, to prepare, don’t let this woman take any of your happiness away. Prioritize….And she isn’t a priority.
CONGRATS again on getting married in two weeks!! That feel must be so wonderful!
Post # 7
Doesn’t sound like much of a loss not to have this spoiled, bullying brat at your wedding. I will never understand people who think they can use brinkmanship to control their families.
Post # 8
My concern here is how controlling fSIL’s husband is. If he is controlling her contact with her family like this there are many red flags waving here and I wonder just how safe her situation is. When someone keeps you away from your family like this it is usually part of a very abusive situation.
Post # 9
@hermom: I think you hit the nail on the head. I know my Fiance and the rest of the family are very scared for her, because we don’t know her husband that well & he is so controlling of her and her kids. I’m 100% sure the only reason she is doing this is because of him. He is not coming to the wedding, so I know he doesn’t want her to go without him.
@JoJoDahling: Thank you! Yes we are to the point where we don’t care anymore if she comes or not. We are going to have the best day of our lives & the people who really care will be there with us 🙂