(Closed) In-law Get togethhers VENT!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

While I do think it is unreasonable to exspect you to get drunk and stay… If it is such a huge issue to them, could you bring your own sheets or something to use on the bed so you know they feel clean and such but then also aren’t leaving in the “middle” of family time. That sounds like an adventure for sure! 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I think you’re handling it perfectly.  However, your Fiance needs to step up and run interference for you and tell his parents to lay off pressuring you to drink/stay over.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

When I had a dog I never noticed how much her fur was everywhere and how much dander was on the furniture, and I never noticed it at other people’s houses….after she died and years passed it became SO clear to me when homes were covered in pet dander/fur, but when you live with it daily and you love the pet that stuff just melts into the background….unfortunately for guests who don’t own pets it stands out. So they may really not see how much of a problem it is for you.

That said, either way, they need to let up. I’d have Fiance tell them that your feelings are getting hurt over it–you want to stay the night but you can’t and they are making you feel terrible about it.  Perhaps there is another room you can suggest you two stay in? Or maybe pack a 2-person sleeping bag you can lay out over the bed and bring your own pillows? But even if you find a way to spend the night, your Fiance should still talk to them about it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s annoying that they actually pressure you to drink. I’m sure it comes from a place of having fun and enjoying each other’s company, but it’s still a bit strange. I would do exactly what you did in that situation. Hopefully the fact that their son stays and you’re ok with that makes it easier for them to get over it.

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