Post # 1
Hello Ladies and Gents!
It’s been awhile since ive been to the "hive". I used to write/blog weekly when the hubby and I were planning, But now we are succeful newlyweds, YAY!!!.. ( Thanks you guys for all your help!). Now I have a new question, hope its not too tacky to ask- I just really need advice…
Ok, The hubby and I are going to his hometown for Thanksgiving vaca. We are planning to stay with his Mom and dad for 2 weeks. The hubby asked me tonight if "intercourse" would take place during our new family vacation, stressing the fact that we’ll be away from home for 2 full weeks. Me being the respectable DIL that I am suggested that we wait until we got back home because I felt it would be disrespectful, But hubby feels like it would be ok since we are newlyweds and not just Bf and Girlfriend or FI’s anymore…
I have been blessed to have a wonderful mother/daughter relationship with my Mother-In-Law, and I don’t want to do anything to jeapordize that. We both hold alot of respect for each other and I intend to keep it that way, However this is my husband now and I guess he has the right to "get him some" (excuse me) if he feels the need to. Im lost! PLEASE HELP!!!… (P.S My Mother-In-Law is a missionary and Father-In-Law is a deacon- very religious and active in their church)
SORRY FOR THE LONG POST!
Post # 3
I would think that it would be O.K. to have sex under your new inlaw’s roof. I would hope that you would be decreet and be as quiet as possible. You’re married now, and two weeks is forever for a newlywed!
Post # 4
=o) Wouldn’t it be funny if you conceived while you were there? My fiance’s brother and sister-in-law… the past three times they came to my fiances house shortly there after they would announce they were having a baby. Whenever we asked them ‘hey wait a second— the timing seems like it would have occured right around the time you visited… with… us!!!’ They never admitted it! They would just smile! And honestly, my fiance never knew/heard/expected anything while they stayed at his house.
But I understand what you’re saying. You are married. They know you are too. I am sure they would ascertain that there is an inkling you two would already be… ya’know… doin the deed!
Would you feel differently if you were staying at your parents house?
Post # 5
As long as your quiet and behind closed doors then there is nothing wrong with it. And the fact that DH’s parents are devote should not matter. My grandparents are and they had 7 kids. I would say that it is expected in a marriage. If it makes you uncomfortable just tell Darling Husband that it’s a we’ll see kinda thing. If you are totally freaked at the time by the possibility of getting caught or wierded out by it then you won’t be in the mood but it could be a turn on, clandestine and all.
Post # 6
Keeping it silent and in the middle of the night can be part of the fun – go for it!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t at my parents’ house- just because the walls are thin and all the bedrooms are right next to each other. But my in-laws the guest room is on the opposite side of the house- so I would.
I say be discrete and respectful, but you’re married- it’s ‘allowed’!
Post # 8
if it was me, I would take a mini B&B trip during the 2 weeks or find another way to keep it quiet or drowned out…can I throw in a shower suggestion 😀
Post # 9
All I can say is DUDE 2 WEEKS?!?! That’s forever, nothing wrong with a little something after they go to sleep, or the shower may not be a bad idea. Or maybe when they are at work. You are married, so I would think they would understand.
Post # 10
I’d just like to speak up as somebody who was conceived at her grandma’s house over a holiday vacation. : ) Didn’t seem to hurt my parents’ relationship with my grandma one bit (they’d been married for a year at that point).
Post # 11
Um, you are married. Married people have sex, even if they are religious. Tell them you are working on that first grandchild for them. 🙂
Post # 12
I am surprised he would even ask if it could happen. That in and of itself is shocking to me. Why wouldnt you both assume it would? You are married. There is nothing disrespectful about it. Thinking you cant sends me down so many different roads!
Post # 13
Hello again ladies!.. Thanks for all of your inputs, I knew I could count on the "bee"!!. My in laws guest room (where we’ll be) is far away from mom and dad’s bedroom (the other side of the house to be exact) so I doubt they’d hear us (even if we did make a little noise). I had forgot all about the shower! ! Thanks for reminding me, LOL!!
To BA: I’d have to say we’re working on that second grandchild for them, Me and Darling Husband have a 2 year old son together! But I guess she’ll be fine since she did mention that she wants more grandchildren! LOL.
Anyways, Thanks again!