Post # 1
My daughter is engaged and is having some issues with her future inlaws. Daughter and fiance live 3 hours apart. Her fiance’s former girlfriend and his former roommate and his girl friend are trying to get back into fiance’s family. They had previously posted rumors on FB and ran their mouths around town. Future brother and sister in laws are also seeing these people. My daughter does not feel like she is included in any family function and is worried that she will have to face these people in the future. Fiance has asked family to stop allowing these former friends back into their lives but family refuses. What should they do?
Post # 3
Why are some people so he$$ bent on messing up others’ lives?
There is really only one thing that can be done, and it sounds like it is headed that way Your daughter’s fiance has to put a stop to it. He reallly is the only one who can even attempt doing so. He needs to sit them down and tell them that they (his family) are acting hurtful to his soon to be wife, and that he is “displeaed” and is not going to tolerate it anymore.
Really, it is the only way. If your daughter says anything, it will likely make it worse, unfortunately.
Post # 4
@plinstedt: Yuck – what a mess. I’m so sorry your daughter. Do you know of what reason that the future in-laws haven’t warmed up to her? Similarly, what the history is with this ex girlfriend or why she is spending time with the family? You are correct to be very concerned. This isn’t normal and I’m really sorry she has to deal with this. I think trying to find out the reason this is happening would be helpful. Does your daughter have any insight?