(Closed) In-law Overload

posted 12 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

International relationships are hard, because it’s not like you can do Christmas eve with one family, and Christmas day with the other! Somewhere along the line, you have to deal with those 8 hour flights and jetlag and everything else. :/

I think alternating years sounds like a great way to go though!

Post # 4
3331 posts
Sugar bee

We just spent 5 days at my ILs, but they were upset that we were leaving so soon!  We split the holiday with both families, but I think, in your situation, that alternating years makes a lot of sense.  Hang in there. 

Post # 5
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Just because alternating holidays makes sense, doesn’t make it any easier.  = (

My family and my fiance’s family all live in the same country, but still far apart, which forces us to alternate too.  This was my first Christmas spent away from my family and I did not take it very well.  My fiance’s family is great – They have treated me like family for years now and I love spending time with them.  But sometimes I worry that I’m losing a small part of my family by gaining a new one.

Try not to be angry – I made the same mistake.  Just remember that his family is your family now but that doesn’t mean your family is any less family than before.  They will always be there.  Try to enjoy the holidays with whatever family is near you, even if it’s not what you’re used to.  You can be with your family next year.  In fact, it helps me to think of the reverse; if we were with my family, how would I feel if he felt this way?

Hang in there.  = )

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