(Closed) In-Law Reception Drama

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have not honestly ever heard of letting people in to eat early..it will ruin the set up of the room and seriously..YOU AND H seeing your reception for the first time is special!

I’d say sorry but no.  Maybe give them a special table or something?? But no to early special treatment and for them to see your reception before you do. 

Post # 4
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

WOW…I have a situation similar to yours…I have been planning this wedding for upwards of about 10 months now…heard nothing except "set a date" from the IL’s…now with 2 months left to go, vendors booked, invitations sent, they want to come to us about inviting more people to our 250 person wedding that Fiance and I are paying for…they don’t seem to get the fact that we can’t add people not only because of our budget, but because the vendor only allows 250.   Future Father-In-Law actually told Fiance that WE were going to have to get another venue to account for the relatives "he" wants to invite…OMG…


I would be firm with the contract rules for the venue…that has seemed to work partially for us as of yet…

Post # 5
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Oh ladies I feel your pain… I have a funny feelign that my wedding is heading in this sort of direction as well…

Post # 6
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

She should really know better.  I’m sorry, how annoying. 


What did you say to her when she called?  How did you leave it?

Post # 8
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Ugg no.  Maybe your Fi can be stronger with her.  So what happens when the rest of your guests show up aqt the tail end, and think some of the other guests were offered a dinner, but not them?  What if by them eating a dinner, the reception venue gets a little dirty and tired looking?  Your real reception will start and everyone (else) will walk in to see sauce stains and crumbs on the tables, or some of the appetizer displays missing food, etc.

If she wants to feed peole, and that’s fine, she needs to do it at her home, or in her back yard or whatever.

Post # 9
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

How pushy!  And before bed time, I would be steaming for a while before I’d be able to sleep with that one.  Hold your ground, you guys have been clear about what you want and keep at it.  Grrr.  Just kindly remind her about how the set up is and what they can do with that time.  Perhaps even say that the time for the reception area, security guard, barkeeps, is all locked in so she’ll drop it.  Perhaps it’ll help. 

Honeymoon WILL come and you’ll have a great time.

Post # 10
47 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

Good news is your wedding is very soon, and you will not have to deal with her opinions after, lol. But who really asks that? Every wedding I have been to we go and get food at a restaurant before the reception, even when there is going to be food at the reception.

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