- 3 years ago
- Wedding: March 2018
My future husband’s family has always said hurtful comments towards me and I finally had enough. I grew up in a very nice area and although the house I grew up in wasn’t very large, it is still in a very exclusive area and we own it outright. My future in laws have a huge home in a not so nice area and so they made the comment, “It is nice to see the humble beginnings to now where you are.” I honestly had enough. Other comments I have endured include, how I like expensive things, being rude to me and my mother, letting me know how much my future sister in law doesn’t like me etc.
So I haven’t talked to them in two months and I won’t go to any family events. These people scare me as they are highly emotional and will start screaming fights with one another in front of me! They insist that they like me and aren’t intending to hurt me but I have had enough. They don’t have respect or healthy boundaries with each other.
My future husband has had several talks with them and he is personally hurt that every time he tells them how he feels disrespected, they turn the argument about them and how he or I or both have hurt them by not understanding them or seeing them. As of now, my fiance is at odds with his sister, mother and father. Point is, I feel so bad that all of this arguing is because I came into his life and I fear they blame me. My fiance insists that these arguments don’t have anything to do with me anymore and that this would have happened eventually and with anyone he brought home. My fiance is very passive and is finally establishing boundaries and they aren’t used to it.
I feel so bad. There is a family function on Saturday and I just don’t want to attend. Sorry for the long rant. Anyone relate or have advice? They have made planning my wedding very sad and I am tired of being insulted and care too much for myself to endure that or insult anyone back.