- 5 years ago
I’m going Anon for this, as I know this might come off as hurtful if my in-law’s were to ever read this. But I don’t know what to do.
Before my Husband and I were married, his brother and his wife got a great dane puppy. They lived in a small apartment in NYC at the time and it suddenly proved impossible to come over to their place as the dog got bigger. They never trained it and it constantly would put your extremeities in its mouth and go to the bathroom (large #2’s) everywhere on the floor. Once during a nice family dinner, right next to the table while we were all eating.
As the dog got bigger, they decided to get a golden retriever puppy as well. Again, they never trained the dog. Repeat of the behavior issues with the first dog.Since then, they have taken in another golden retriever. Repeat behavior.
We’re all married now and they live about 3 hours away from us. We have visited a couple of times and it has been the most awful experience of my life. The worst part is that they JUMP. They jump up to your face and scratch you from your head down to your toes. They knock you over and will not leave you alone for hours on end. I was there for five minutes once and left looking like someone had taken a whip to my back. They are AWFUL AWFUL AWFUL dogs. It’s not their fault, because no one has ever trained them and my BIL and SIL just scream at them at the top of their lungs. It’s very stressful to be around.
Anyways, my Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law also have a golden retriever and a lab. Their lab is well behaved but their golden retriever also likes to jump – but he’s a very sweet dog once you get over the initial “HI! HI! HI!” We have a shih tzu. Needless to say, because of all of these dogs…we can never get together as a family. But my BIL and SIL don’t see their dogs as the inconvenient part of it all. Their dogs are their babies, but no one will tell them that they are out of control and no one wants to be around them.
My Darling Husband and I have had plans for the past year to spend Christmas with his parents in Deleware, mainly because we knew BIL and SIL would be in North Carolina for the holidays. But without telling us, all of a sudden we find out that their plans have changed and they are coming with all three dogs to Deleware as well.
We are now considering not going anymore and spending Christmas by ourselves without family because we don’t want to have to handle the stress of the dogs. This upsets us both a lot. We haven’t seen his family in a really long time. My Darling Husband has tried to explain to his brother the situation but he gets very offended.
I am very very upset, as I can imagine this will be a problem for many many years if someone doesn’t confront them about the bad behavior of their dogs. But no one in my Husband’s side will say anything.
Am I right for being upset and how would you handle this situation? I REALLY can’t imagine what’s going to happen when we have children. I will never ever bring my kids around those dogs.
Disclaimer: I love dogs. I have no fear of dogs. But these dogs are the reason why people are afraid of dogs.