(Closed) In Laws

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I don’t know the backstory, but I’m a big supporter of inviting those who you really want in your bridal party, whether they’re family or not.  So many people think that if you have sisters or SILs they HAVE to be in your bridal party?  WHY?  I have three sisters, one sister in law, and two FSILs.  I only have one person in my bridal party, my one sister, who is the Maid/Matron of Honor.  I chose my sister because she is the sister I’m closest two, and honestly the one good friend I had at the time who I might have asked was a big flake (which is proven by the fact that we don’t speak now).  So in my opinion, you don’t need to include her.  Now if you two were super close and you didn’t ask her, I could understand her being hurt, but I get the feeling that isn’t the case.

I am not including my Future In-Laws in the planning.  They are also not paying for anything, and I really wouldn’t consider myself “close” to them.  My mom and my sisters are helping me plan.  If they have questions, we’ve answered them, but we’re doing what we want.

Post # 4
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’d leave it up to my Fiance.  DH and I planned ours with minimal IL involvement.  If your Fiance wants them involved in everything, compromise and pick the things that matter to you least.  If he doesn’t care, go with that. 


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