(Closed) in laws.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1292 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@ABCarlyle:  Ugh. I’m sorry. I’m in a similiar situation but my Future Father-In-Law. He doesn’t blatantly insult me, he’s just a total jerk to everyone around him and sometimes I’m in that mix. Sometimes when he is drinking he will say stuff to me that I find rude but I’m also very sensitive so who knows.

I know how it feels, though, to want your SO/FIetc to stick up for you in those sorts of situations and it’s very frustating when they don’t! It’s like, come on! Be a man!

My first question would be has this happened before? If so, has he stood up for you then? How is your relationship with your StepFIL?

What is the wedding gift he speaks of? — to let someone walk all over you for a gift (money?) is just not worth it, In My Humble Opinion.

I think the next time if happens you should calmly tell him how you feel. You don’t have to say it in a rude way, just a nice calm matter, “Please do not speak to me that way.”

Post # 5
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11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ugh so sorry your husband’s not sticking up for you.  I’d definitely say something if that’s the case! My mom and her Mother-In-Law exchanged quite a few words after they got married and their relationship is much better now.  

Post # 6
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think it’s asking too much. My husband won’t let anyone talk to me disrespectfully. He considers being a Christian husband taking care of your household. Plus I’m his heart so me being upset really upsets him.

Question: you married a man that doesn’t like children when you have a 4 year old – whose suppose to be loud and make noise like all 4 year olds – but the relationship is good. I’m asking because you want him to stand up for you. Are you standing up for her? Are you being an example of what true love does?

Post # 7
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

*hugs* I am so sorry that you are feeling this way.  I can relate.  Whenever my IL’s would do something that I did not appriciate he would always tell me to get over it because he didn’t want to start anything with his family.  I understand how much it hurts when it feels like your Darling Husband is putting your feelings to the side.

Someone, whether it be you or him, needs to tell you SFIL that what he said was inappropriate and that it will not be tolerated.  And he can either respect that or you will limit your time with them.  And your Darling Husband should learn to stick up for you.

Post # 8
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979 posts
Busy bee

My ex inlaws always said inappropriate things to me or over parented me. My ex alway sided with them or never spoke up to them, or put his foot down to his parents.  His parents always came first. Needless to say, they, and that, is one of the few reasons why he is my ex.  I’d have a talk with your Darling Husband about it.  

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