(Closed) In-Laws and Birthdays

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

1. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your FI/DH’s birthday?

My Mother-In-Law basically looks for my input on what to do. If we are doing a party in our hometown she will come down, if we want to do it in DH’s old hometown, she will help plan and organize.

2. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your birthday?

My Mother-In-Law plans a joint birthday party between her brother (DH’s uncle) and I. 

3. What do you do for your in-laws birthdays?

We usually will help plan a get together and obviously get a gift. 

4. How well do you get along with the in-laws on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is “If I never saw them again I would be thrilled” and 10 is “I LOVE THEM I would see them every day if I could!!!”

10!!!  I love my Mother-In-Law. Unfortunetly, Father-In-Law passed away before I had a chance to meet him. I have heard that he was a very lovely man though

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

1. It usually just depends. Last year we went to a nice restaraunt and had dinner and opened presents. This year we went to get pizza and just hung out. Both were great.

2. My birthday is the same week and his dads so we always go out to a really nice place for dinner and they get me presents. So nice of them to include me even though it used to just be a celebration for their dad.

3. Depends if they do something, we go if invited but they usually don’t do anything. We always send cards.

4. I love them so a 9!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m glad this topic came up! FI’s mother’s b-day was yesterday. Last year, Fiance, his mother and his sister just went out to dinner… did not invite me… This year he couldn’t afford to do much of anything for her. She came over to our house last night to pickup a card he had given her. I didn’t sign it, I dk what he put if he even put my name down. When she came over, I jumped in the shower and STAYED there till she was gone.

No one but me does anything for his b-day (his mom MIGHT give him a card I dk) and as for my b-day, I don’t get calls from any of them.

So you ask on a scale of 1-10 how well I get along with FI’s mother, the number I have for her is actually in the negatives and it won’t change.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

1. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your FI/DH’s birthday?

They live several states away, so they just buy him a gift.

2. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your birthday?

Same as above – they usually get me something small and give it to me next time they see us.

3. What do you do for your in-laws birthdays?

I’m bad about gift giving in general, but I always call his mom on her birthday.  His dad’s birthday is the day after Christmas and we’ve been with all of his family for the last couple years.  We get him a little something and also indulge in his favorite bday tradition, eating a bunch of junk including fried Spam sandwhiches, haha.

4. How well do you get along with the in-laws on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is “If I never saw them again I would be thrilled” and 10 is “I LOVE THEM I would see them every day if I could!!!”

9.  Seeing them every day would be a bit much, but I love them SO much!  So lucky to have amazing in-laws!  My Fiance would probably rate my parents at about an 8, so we both feel pretty fortunate.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

1. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your FI/DH’s birthday?

His mom always wants to have him over to her house so she can make him his “favorite” dessert (using quotation marks because it’s not actually his favorite anymore, but she insists on making it all the time and telling me how mom knows best and she knows it’s his favorite and has been since he was a little boy – basically anything she can say to imply that she knows him best and misses when she was #1…yeah, she’s lovely), then his gift is usually things like clothes that aren’t his size or style anymore.

2. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your birthday?

Whenever we end up being over there for dinner, whenever it’s closest to my birthday, they’ll get me a card and a small gift. Which sounds nice, but they got me the same dollar store card the last two years in a row, and the gift is always something random like a candle or reed diffuser from the clearance section. I know the clearance part because she leaves the price tag on so I can see the great deal she got (and these people are loaded, seriously!)

3. What do you do for your in-laws birthdays?

Take them out to dinner and get them a nice card. I usually let Darling Husband handle the gift since I get kinda bitter about the total lack of effort, and he typically goes with a gift card.

4. How well do you get along with the in-laws on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is “If I never saw them again I would be thrilled” and 10 is “I LOVE THEM I would see them every day if I could!!!”


Depends on the day…it can be between a 1 and a 3.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

They send us both cards with money. They send them between our birthdays so mine is always late.

FH and his sister take turns buying gifts.

I don’t mind seeing them, but they always try to set it up as a choice between them and my parents, so of course I would choose my family.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

1. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your FI/DH’s birthday?

They’ll send a card, call, and send gifts. Sometimes they’ll time a visit near his birthday (they live 8 hours away), and we’ll all go out to dinner to celebrate one of the nights they’re here.

2. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your birthday?

I get a card, call, and some small gifts, as well. 

3. What do you do for your in-laws birthdays?

We send cards. Sometimes Darling Husband will send a small present and we try to call them on their birthday.

4. How well do you get along with the in-laws on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is “If I never saw them again I would be thrilled” and 10 is “I LOVE THEM I would see them every day if I could!!!”

Probably averages out to a 7.  Overall, they’re great, but I could never handle them daily and some things they do/say irritate me.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

1. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your FI/DH’s birthday?

Depends on the year, and whether or not DH’s birthday falls on a weekend or not.  If it’s a weekend, we’ll celebrate with them, unless it’s snowing, and then they won’t drive to the city (they live about 30 minutes outside of the city).  If it’s a weekday, God forbid Father-In-Law should be inconvienced and have to go to bed a little later to celebrate his only child’s birthday.  We’ll usually celebrate with them on the weekend. 

2. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your birthday? 

Absolutely nothing.  This year, I got a call from Mother-In-Law the day after my birthday, and by “I”, I should say Darling Husband did.  Her voicemail was addressed to Darling Husband, and halfway through there was a “Oh, and wish Shosha1” a Happy Birthday. 

3. What do you do for your in-laws birthdays?


We usually go out for dinner ON their birthdays.

4. How well do you get along with the in-laws on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is “If I never saw them again I would be thrilled” and 10 is “I LOVE THEM I would see them every day if I could!!!”


Probably a 2, but that’s just because I’ve been feeling pretty jaded about both sides of our families at the moments, not just the inlaws.  If it wasn’t for my nieces and nephews, I’d be thrilled if it was just Darling Husband and I. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

1. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your FI/DH’s birthday?

His birthday is near Thanksgiving so they usually have a cake for him as part of their Thanksgiving dinner and give him a card and small gift. 

2. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your birthday?  

Usually they give me a card and/or small gift whenever I see them near my birthday.  They don’t call on the actual day though.  Maybe they will one day..?

3. What do you do for your in-laws birthdays?

I sign the card from my Fiance and help him pick out a gift for them.  We usually don’t celebrate it with a special event.

4. How well do you get along with the in-laws on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is “If I never saw them again I would be thrilled” and 10 is “I LOVE THEM I would see them every day if I could!!!”

I would say 8… I certainly don’t want to see them every day, but we get along well and except for a few little things that annoy me now and again they are great people!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsBroccoli:  

1. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your FI/DH’s birthday?  The last time they did anything for his birthday was his 21st.  That was 9 years ago.

2. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your birthday?  Nothing.  They call me and wish me a happy bday but nothing outside of that.  And that’s fine with me, I’m not big on birthdays!

3. What do you do for your in-laws birthdays?  We get a card, treat them to dinner.  Our Mom’s have the same bday and my sister and Father-In-Law have the same bday (and they are a day apart – strange!) so now that we have a house we try to host a little shindig if we’re able.

4. How well do you get along with the in-laws on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is “If I never saw them again I would be thrilled” and 10 is “I LOVE THEM I would see them every day if I could!!!”  Hmmmm… a 5 maybe.  They are good people, but sort of a pain. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

1. We do dinner

2. Nothing yet – we had just started dating for my first bday together, and this year Fiance was overseas but they did call me, and sent a card and got me a gift

3. We do dinner and we’ll give them a card and flowers/small gift

4. 10 (though I wouldn’t want to see them every day necessarily – that’s a bit much for me for anyone!)

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

1. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your FI/DH’s birthday?

They sent $100 cash – we went to dinner

2. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your birthday?

$100 cash is in the mail – we are saving it for a big NYE dinner

3. What do you do for your in-laws birthdays?

Darling Husband calls them.  If I remember, they get a card, but at the minimum, they get a call.  I am in college right now, and run a tight ship budget wise, so gifts are low scale.

4. How well do you get along with the in-laws on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is “If I never saw them again I would be thrilled” and 10 is “I LOVE THEM I would see them every day if I could!!!

I would say a 3.  Yes, I can get along with them, but I don’t like them.  They are very pushy about family and “I love you’s”, which I’m not comforatable saying.  So it’s hard to get along with them, especially since Darling Husband lived with them for 5 years before moving in with me, and now he isn’t able to be at their beck and call for “family” gatherings.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

1. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your FI/DH’s birthday? – FI’s parents actually live across the country, so they just call and send a card with money or, if they’re home to visit, take all of us out to dinner (usually at a wing or BBQ place since that’s FI’s favorite) and get him a gift (last year it was a new laptop).

2. What do your future in-laws in-laws do for your birthday? – Future Mother-In-Law usually calls and sends me a card with, like, 3-4 gift cards to different places in it, haha. (She’s not quite sure of my taste yet, especially since we don’t get to spend a lot of time with them). Last year, the gift cards were to Olive Garden, a movie theater, Kohl’s, and Amazon.com.

3. What do you do for your in-laws birthdays? – We usually call and send them a card or a small gift.

4. How well do you get along with the in-laws on a scale of 1-10 where 1 is “If I never saw them again I would be thrilled” and 10 is “I LOVE THEM I would see them every day if I could!!!” – I’d say it hovers between a 7-9. They’re great people, but sometimes they do things that are unexplicable and leave me scratching my head.

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