Post # 1
I am pregnant, in my 17th week. My in-laws always expect me to show them my ecography photos and they’re very insisting. After the 12th week ecography, I showed them the photos of the baby, cause they insisted a lot. Yet, I must say that it upsets me, because it is something very intimate (the picture of my uterus…and very personal…my medical records). This is why I don’t think they can expect me to show them the photos and get upset if I don’t, even if they’re the future grandparents, I still have a right to some privacy.
What do you think?
Post # 3
Hmm. I think it is perfectly natural that they would want to see a picture of their future family member. Are we talking just the grandparents, or like passing it around to 100 people at the next family party? I think if its just the grandparents you should let them see. Its not like you have to put it up on Facebook to share with the world.
Post # 4
I’m with you. i didn’t show my inlaws mine and they were pissed. It made it hard since my sil gave them copies of hers which were on their fridge. I think it is a good way to start laying and enforcing your boundaries early. You can always ask them why are they so concerned with your vagina if they continue to push and ask rude questions. If you cant tell, I was very private about My experience.
Post # 5
My Darling Husband showed both sets of immediate family members the ultrasound photos from our 12 week scan but we are close to both sides and this is the first grandchild and nephew (or niece) on both sides so there’s a lot of excitement all around. I’m a very private person but it never dawned on me that it’s a picture of my uterus, although that’s quite true. I don’t plan on showing the photos to others, e.g. on Facebook.
I guess one option, aside from just telling them “NO!” would be to show them a fake U/S photo. There’s a lot online from every week possible. LOL
Post # 6
I don’t think i’ve ever come across a pregnant woman who was not excited to share the ultrasounds before. You uterus is on full expanding display for the world to see, so it’s not that private anymore. And nobody looking at an ultrasound is thinking “Hey, what’s her uterus look like?!”. All they want to do is see the baby and share in the joy with you. It’s not as though they are rifling through your history of pap smears, or questioning your history of illnesses, etc. They are looking at a picture of the baby.
Post # 7
I’m 22 weeks and whenever I get an ultrasound not only do our families want to see, but so do our friends and co-workers. It doesn’t bother me at all. I never even thought about it being my uterus, and I don’t think people really care. They want to see the baby and be excited for you. I definitely don’t think the grandparents are asking too much.
Post # 8
@DVsMom: They didn’t ask to see her vagina. Do you mean her uterus? You have to give them the benefit of the doubt that they don’t give a flying flip about her uterus and are probably not even realizing it’s offensive. They want to see the baby.
We can all stop pretending that people are asking to see pictures of her legs spread – that’s not what people are asking her for.
Would the OP rather nobody care? If you don’t want them to see it then say so and if they still bug you then it’s on them and that’s rude. OP if you didn’t want them asking then you should have told them to stop. Most people wouldn’t think that you would be offended.
Post # 9
They are the Grandparents for goodness sake, and of course they’re excited to see it. I can’t even imagine why anyone would think it is so private.
I look, I smile, I smile bigger and then I cry at the miracle in front of me.
I would never deny the Grandparents that happiness, especially since it isn’t something we had in our day.
Post # 10
i can see your point, especially if they’re being pushy. it’s your choice whether to show them or not. i mean, i understand they’re excited and all. but you have every right to privacy.
Post # 11
@crayfish: +1. I’ve never heard of this as an issue before either. I will have no problem showing my family members if they ask.
Post # 12
I can see how they’d be hurt if you showed your parents and not them. It’s their grandchild too.
Post # 13
I have honestly never heard of someone not wanting to share photos of their ultrasound. If it’s all so private, why tell them you’ve gotten an U/S done in the first place?
Post # 14
If you don’t want to share, then don’t. If you haven’t explained your reasoning though, that would probably help soften the blow.
Post # 15
OP, just because you’re pregnant doesn’t entitle anyone to share in your pregnancy if you don’t want them to. If you aren’t comfortable sharing the pics for whatever reasons, that’s your business and your choice. I don’t know when this attitude got started, that a woman’s pregnancy is anyone business except hers and her husband’s. Your in laws can see their grandchild after it’s born. Good luck!
Post # 16
@TattedNYBride: You’re rig, I shoulnt have made my post sound ao snarky.
What I meant was that I guess I have never heard of anyone not wanting to show the world thepictures and so I dont know how to go about giving advice other than maybe keep the ultrasound appointments to yourself in general.