(Closed) in laws at the wedding

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We have one family in particular that I’m a little worried about.  I’m planning on seating them as far away from our sweetheart table as possible and not opening the mic up to people for toasts or anything, only people we specify will be allowed to do toasts. If it really gets crazy or if they bring all of their kids, I am fully prepared to ask them to leave.

Post # 5
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2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@SimplyChic11: I hate even having to do that and I really really hope this family will be fine, but I just have this feeling that they are all going to show and there will be some sort of drama and they will bring their unvited children (we’re not having any other than the flower girl and ring bearer) who will cry through the entire ceremony and they’ll just sit there and do nothing. Gotta love in-laws!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@SimplyChic11:  Is there someone you can assign to be on “in-law duty” for the day/night?  Maybe a Bridesmaid or Best Man or something?  They can help keep people away from you or distract them.

I have had one friend do the above and it worked.  

Hopefully your in-laws will realise that there are other people around and that they should put their best foot forward.  They probably don’t want witnesses.  🙂

ETA: Day of, you have to let it go though.  You can’t control what they do or say.  All you can do is control your actions.  So, I would have a rough gameplan in the back of your head (or your FIs) of what you’re going to do if shit really hits the fan (like Miss Socks), so that if something bad DOES happen, you just have to execute said plan, not worry about it.  

If it’s just them talking shit about you, there’s not much you can do unless they approach you directly.  I would just be firm and polite.  “I’m sorry.  THis is not the time to be discussing this.” Then walk.  Hopefully your inlaws keeper will prevent this.

Either way, this has to be a united front.  You can’t scream “Get Out!” while your Fiance says “please let them stay”.  It has to be a joint decision.

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