- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Ok, this is a bit of a rant but I kinda need to know I’m not on my own here. My fiances family are really taking over my wedding planning, and it’s really starting to upset me.
I’m having a destination wedding in Europe, and we had spoken to everyone and asked that they book accomodation in the same resort as us so they would be near by in the run up to the wedding. My fiances parents decided to book in a resort 11 miles away from us (a 40 euro taxi fare each way).
My parents have booked accomodation for most of the wedding party including myself, my FH, 3 of the BMs and the groomsmen, the grooms sister and cousin (bridesmaids) are staying with my Father-In-Law 11 miles away from me. The night before the ceremony my FH is going to stay with his parents, and the plan was that his two groomsmen (who are staying with us) would go with him, and the two bridesmaids would come to me. This was so that my fiance had all his groomsmen the morning of the wedding to get ready with, and I would have the girls.
We all went for dinner last night and I was told that his mother and sister are flying out the week before to go round all the hairdressers and have trials done. His sister (a BM) did not even ask the other BM’s to go. I’m worried his sis is trying to outshine the other girls as she barely speaks to them and it’s creating an atmosphere! His mother said that the groomsmen (who she’s known all their lives) were not to stay with her, they would need to stay with me or book a b and b. My fiances upset by this as am I. His sister has said she does not want to stay the night before the wedding.
His mother and father went out and priced outfits for the groomsmen for my wedding, then TOLD my fiance and I what to have. I’m not being consulted on anything and last night I also found out that 10 of my FH’s relatives have invited themselves to my wedding. I’m so upset. Due to numbers I could only have 30 people, and had to cut some of my friends – yet his family are pushing right in!
This family is really competitive, his mum has been competing with mine since day one, and now I feel like his sister is creating a them/us divide with the other girls. She makes no effort whatsoever with the other BM’s and her and my FH’s cousin have a clique.
My other 3 BM’s and my mom are really P’eed about this and so am I. My fiance is too laid back to stand up for me – help please? I’m not very assertive and so don’t know how to deal with this issue