(Closed) In-laws from H-E-double L!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Thats really rude of them. They knew you were cooking them dinner, did they know what time though?

Doesn’t matter bc if you are staying in someones home and they cook you dinner you say thank you! Try the dish, if you would prefer it with some spice ask politey. And if its not your cup of tea, you put up with it. Its one meal!

I am very sorry they did this. Can Darling Husband talk to them about how it made you feel? 🙁

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

So sorry about this, luckily all my family and my SOs family either live here or have other family that lives here that they stay with when they come into town!

I hope your Darling Husband is sympathizing with/for you.

Post # 5
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624 posts
Busy bee

SO, seriously- WTF. Its one thing to come to our home (without an invitiation, might I add) for three weeks-

While your IL’s sound rude, where is your Darling Husband in all of this?  He needs to step it up.  Just consider this a lesson learned and limit your visits or if they want to stay this long, they need to get a room. 

I understand where you come from with having limited food options for yourself and no one understanding.  I think what would be best is to do your own thing and let the IL’s do their own thing.  As for kicking you out of your own kitchen, take a stand.  Better yet, get your Darling Husband to take a stand, which is where all this lies.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Yikes, that sucks.  And they’re diplomats?  You’d think they’d have had some lessons in etiquette. 

How’d they kick you out of the kitchen until noon?  That stinks.

Post # 8
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624 posts
Busy bee

The way to get the point across about meal time is to go ahead and eat at 7 pm with or without them. 

Post # 9
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

How rude is that? You should get up in the middle of the night and hide all your dishes so they can’t cook and will have to leave often to eat.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Grrrrrrr….I feel you on the language thing.  My IL do that too and also are fluent in English (and have lived at least part of the year in the States for 25 years now).  I wouldn’t mind so much because I’m trying to learn but they don’t even bother to slow down or stop and make sure I’m following and then will sigh and switch over to English.  It really bothered me a couple days before the wedding when all the family flew in from another country, I really felt like my Mother-In-Law or Father-In-Law should have made sure I was following if my hub wasn’t around and tried to include me but they never would.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

What country are they from?  Do they understand Celiac Disease?  Honestly I would throw away all of the gluten containing food they brought in your house.  Tell them again what Celiac’s is and what will happen if you eat gluten.  Show them what they CAN bring in your house.  And if they continue to bring in gluten, then continue to throw it away.  They are GUESTS and should behave as such!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re more than welcome to bring your laptop here and do some work! We’re not gluten free but I won’t stick a croissant under your nose either 😉 Sorry you’re having such problems with the ILs. Keep sticking up for yourself and keep getting Darling Husband in there too. It seems he’s likely the one who can communicate best with them. I agree with Mighty, throw their gluten laden stuff out. They can go eat bagels at Timmy’s!

Post # 16
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Umm on another note, can you send them to spend a few days with other family members? Why do you get saddled down with them for the entire three weeks? I mean, I know it’s their son, but Darling Husband needs to push them out of the nest here!

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