(Closed) In-Laws inviting…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I know and am semi-close with all the friends my parents are inviting, but Fiance and I don’t know many of the friends his parents are inviting. I am not going to tell them they can’t invite their friends though. However FIL’s are paying for a hefty portion of the wedding (not that they would use this argument to get their way). I say what’s wrong with just inviting a few more people?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Omg…that would drive me crazy!! We’re sending out our invites this week and Future Mother-In-Law pitched a fit this morning that she wants more of her friends invited.

Why do people not realize what extra people mean?! UGH.

I would just tell your Future Father-In-Law sorry but no. Normally I would say, we’ll keep them in mind if space allows but you’re already waaay over your limit!

Post # 6
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810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh, I posted before I saw your last post. If you are already way over your limit, I’d just explain that to them. 

Post # 7
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624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Funny this just got posted!! I was at the FIL’s last night, and they said “I feel bad we didn’t invite xx to the wedding.” It took everything I had to not say something, becuase they gave me a HUGE list of people to invite. My parents are paying for everything, they’re just paying for the alcohol. When she gave me the list I was like are you for real?! She invited everyone under the sun! I just told her we are already over the limit of what the hall can hold, we can’t invite any more people. I would do the same, espcially if the rsvp date is in 2 days!

Post # 8
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Lauren10.8.11: OMG my IL’s did the same thing! Except, they aren’t paying for anything. We told them our total number was going to be around 120 and they gave us a list of 130 people!! *rolling my eyes*

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t feel obligated to do this! I know how icky it feels to just say no, but there’s nothing you can do. Esp. if you are over the limit already! 🙁 

It’s not your wedding’s job to have a family/friend reunion for your future family, especially if they are not paying the way for extra people. 

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