Post # 1
My mother in law sometimes makes sarcastic comments on my family’s way of living, like she’s jealous or something. My parents are both very active, open-minded people and know many people. This is also thanks to the position my mother had at work. On the contrary my in-laws are quite narrow-minded and sedentary and come from a small country town.
Once I even heard them comparing me with their daughter, my future sister in law, by saying she’s prettier and bla, bla. I am quite confident as for my physical appearance and she’s quite insecure. They behave as if they want to reassure her when I’m around.
There have been other situations where I got this bad perceptions…
You might think I’m exagerating things, but when one has those feelings there certainly is something real.
I love my future husband so deeply and try to be nice and respecful to them, although they aren’t towards my family.
I just needed to express what I feel.
Excuse my English guys, I’m from Switzerland and English is not my first language.
Post # 3
Ugh, that’s so annoying! Would it be helpful (or maybe it would do more harm than good,) to speak up the next time they say something negative? Like, “You know, I really don’t appreciate when you say things like that about my parents. They certainly don’t talk about you in such a negative way.”
And I think your English was pretty great! 🙂
Post # 4
@red_rose: Thanks so much!!
Post # 5
That sucks! I don’t think I would say anything and hope that as they know you better that they will get over it. It sounds to me that they are feeling a little inferior and intimated. This will be a lifelong relationship for you and I would let them get to know what a wonderful person you are. If after awhile they are still feeling insecure and still making these comments THEN I would let them know it’s hurting your feelings. I really think they are just feeling inferior!
Post # 6
I have had conflict with my Mother-In-Law as well. Everything was ok between us until her son and I had a baby together then she went crazy on me. Badmouthing me to people and his sisters. It got back to me and I got very upset. I talked to my hunny and let him know how much it bothered me because I thought everything was ok between his mom and I. He talked to her about it and his sisters haven’t told me anything anymore but if things continue I plan to talk to her myself.
Post # 7
@bricon: Hey ladies!! Thanks so much!! I feel weddingbee is full of beautiful, strong women!!