(Closed) In Laws. Love 'em or hate 'em?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: How do you feel about your in laws

    Love them!

    Hate them!

    Somewhere in the middle

  • Post # 47
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I truly love my inlaws. They’re like another set of parents to me and DH’s sisters are both sweet as pie and I loved them from day one. I always feel a bit sad reading about how other people don’t get along with their inlaws. I feel quite blessed. A bonus too that my parents actually like DH’s parents and vice versa. There’s no strange competition there. For that, I’m very thankful. 

    Post # 48
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @Gabthebee:  YOu need another option for “both love and hate”  🙂

    Family dynamics can be complicated!

    Post # 49
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    2113 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    They aren’t technically my in-laws, but my SO and I have been together for over 6 years, so I obviously know them. 

    I don’t love them. They are both nice to me, but his mom has a past that I cannot love. She was an alcoholic and she still has anger issues. 

    Post # 50
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    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I said love them. Truth is I don’t know Future Father-In-Law.  FI hasn’t spoken to him in 2 years and at that time only because his sister had died.  It has been a lot more years if you don’t count that. I will most likely never meet him.  FMIL is really nice.  I don’t know her too well but she tries to be really nice and make me feel welcome. The more I see her the more I like her. Fiance is her favorite and sometimes I do get the feeling she wishes she could have her son to herself more since she only sees him about 4 times a year. I try to respect that and give them some space.  Fi’s step dad is wonderful.  Warm, caring, makes me feel at ease and comfortable.  love him. The rest, Future Brother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law, his cousin and his wife who I count as his brother-eehhh not so much.  I think it will get better with most of them but the jury is still out

    Post # 51
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Adore them. I get along with them better than I do my own parents. They are the mostly lovely welcoming people, but they don’t smother. I scored big in the in-law department.

    Post # 52
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    766 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I really lucked out with my in-laws. From the day I met them, they and their extended family could not have been more welcoming and inclusive even when I was just starting to date their son. My Future Sister-In-Law has become one of my closest friends and we have so much in common. My only gripe (although minor) is that they are a very tight-knit family that is scattered across the western, rural part of the state. That means that Fiance and I are expected to do some VERY long car rides during the holidays. Sometimes on a free day I don’t want to leave our dogs for 10-12 hours as we ride in the car for 3 hours there, sit around and chat for 4 hours, and ride back again for another 3. This is the way that they have always done things though, and so we have been slowing figuring out how to distribute ourselves over the holidays. I think part of this difficulty is also that my family is not so tight-knight. Most live up north and don’t speak to each other for one reason or another. It almost hadn’t occurred to me that Thanksgiving could be spent with people other than immediate family. I do think, as well that because they are from such a small town they find our wedding plans to be very frivolous. They didn’t know that it was usually the groom and his family that orchestrated the rehearsal dinner and we still don’t know if they plan to help us at all with our honeymoon (it’s fine if they don’t, but I wish they’d broach the subject so we could start making plans on how much money we do have to work with). One day Future Mother-In-Law asked how much my wedding dress was- I almost wish I hadn’t admitted to it being 6k because where they are from, that’s pretty unheard of. I genuinely love them as people. The cultures of our individual families are different, which I have to remember to keep in mind. 

     

    Post # 53
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @Miss Joker:  my father in law didn’t even bother to show up.

    im on your page 

    Post # 54
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    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    So far, I love them. The Fiance and I are going away this weekend to attend their annual family get together. It’s always themed and everyone goes all out and it’s so much fun and it’s become something that I always look forward to. I’ve been very fortunate that they’ve welcomed me with open arms into their family.

    Post # 55
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I seriously could not ask for better in-laws!!! Me and future Mother-In-Law did bump heads because I was engaged to a momma’s boy (he still won’t admit this) but one day she called me crying talking about how happy she is that he has me and he has grown up so much blah blah blah 

    She is awesome and now realizes that there is a place in his heart for both his wife and his mom And we have been fine ever since 

    Post # 56
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I got along great with my Mother-In-Law before she passed away. Never met my Father-In-Law, but DH says he would have adored me. I get along with his two aunties and cousins great too.

    As for the rest of his family… If they were on fire and I had a glass of water, I’d drink it.

    Post # 57
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

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    @Tinkerbride13:  FI has a similar background!  His dad died when he was in highschool and his mom is an unloving/abusive person.  He hasn’t talked to her in over 8 years and decided that he never wants me to meet her.  Based on your Future Mother-In-Law, maybe I should be glad she won’t be in our life? I have a Future Sister in law though, and I don’t know her well but she seems nice. yay

    Post # 58
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    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I am very lucky, my Father-In-Law are great!  I spend time often with my Future Mother-In-Law and my future grandmother shopping or just visiting.  My Future Father-In-Law is quite but he is a nice guy.  I really like my FIL; they have considered me family since day one.

    My parents are divorced.  My Fiance likes my dad.  My Fiance likes my stepdad but he finds it difficult to get close to my mom.    

    Post # 59
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    522 posts
    Busy bee

    We are somewhere in the middle. SO’s mother is very attached and she’s never been very warm/welcoming. I went through years of trying to please her, and I gave up after realizing she would always find something she didn’t like about me. 

    Post # 60
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    634 posts
    Busy bee

    LOVE his mom. I have a better relationship with her than I do my own mother. Equally, his sister is a ton of fun. He and his father are estranged, but from what I have gleaned, I don’t think I’ll like him. 

    Post # 61
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @Gabthebee:  Somewhere in the middle. Love his dad. His dad’s wife is… a piece of work. Interesting character to say the least.

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