(Closed) In-laws… Love them or Hate them??

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
  • poll:
    I hate my inlaws : (15 votes)
    8 %
    I like my inlaws most of the time : (50 votes)
    27 %
    I LOVE my inlaws : (78 votes)
    43 %
    I don't have contact with my inlaws : (6 votes)
    3 %
    I don't hate them but prefer not to deal with them : (34 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m not sure how to vote, but I feel the same way you describe about my in-laws. They aren’t really bad people. But they are very very dependent and anxious and it drives me absolutely crazy. Mostly Darling Husband deals with them and I bite my tongue when I’m frustrated with them.

    Post # 5
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    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m not married, yet, but I voted based on how I feel about my future in laws.  I love most all of my future in laws, a lot.  My main, real issue is my Future Sister-In-Law.  You didn’t have an option for, “I love almost all of my in-laws”, lol!  So, I just voted that I love them.

    Post # 6
    Member
    275 posts
    Helper bee

    My in-laws somtimes drive me up the wall but I love them. I imagine I drive them crazy too. I can’t imagine not having them in our life.

    Post # 7
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    1829 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I absolutely love my in-laws!!!  Well, let me correct that.  I love my Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law – they are amazing, wonderful people whom I love dearly.  They recently moved back to the UK from Australia and I miss them a lot!  I used to love spending weekends with them and would occasionally drive down to their house during the week whilst Darling Husband was at work so I could spend the day just hanging out with them.  LOVE THEM!

    I am close to one Brother-In-Law and think the world of him, another Brother-In-Law and SIL I get along with fairly well, and the other Brother-In-Law and SIL I usually get along with but there are little niggling things that sometimes cause a bit of an annoyance between us.

    Darling Husband loves my family as much as I love his, so I think we are exceptionally fortunate in this regard.  We are planning on leaving Australia at some point in the next year and neither of us wants to make the decision as to whether we’ll live close to my family or his family (they’re in the US and UK respectively), so we’re going to let work decide where we go.   We honestly love spending time with each other’s families that much.  Maybe we’re just weird but that’s honestly how we feel.

    Post # 8
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I love my in-laws and Darling Husband loves my family as much as I love his!

    I get along with my in-laws so well that we are preparing to move in with them for a few months while we house hunt!  We’re re-locating to the city were they live for my job and they offered us their guest room while we find and buy a house of our own.

    Post # 9
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    468 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I do love my in-laws…. BUT the bond I have with my family trumps it just because they are mine I guess lol. My in-laws can drive me a little crazy sometimes but I think that’s just because it’s different than what I’m used too with my family…. and same for my Fiance with my parents.

    Now one of my Future Sister-In-Law I literally can’t stand! But I love the parents haha.

    Post # 10
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    1723 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    i havent spent a lot of time with my in- laws just yet.. but from the time I spent with them I loved them. They are down to earth, funny and cute! And I love spending time with them.

    Post # 11
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    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My in laws are wonderful!

    Post # 12
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    7777 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Unfortunately, I no longer have in-laws. They both passed away withing 14 months of each other. I had a lot of respect for my Father-In-Law (I can’t really say I loved him, but he was a wonderful person and I very much respected his opinions and wanted his approval). My Mother-In-Law… I hardly knew her. DHs parents were divorced and she was a bit of a burnout and preferred to be left alone. She did really like me though and she was always very nice to me, so I really have no complaints.

    Whether your in-laws get on your nerves or not, please, please respect them while they are here and appreciate the time that you and your SO get to spend with them. Both of my in-laws died suddenly and you never know when something can happen and they won’t be here anymore.

    Post # 13
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    3374 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My in laws are very nice, they raised their son very well. I guess I just don’t feel like I belong, even after 5 years with them. We don’t have too much in common.

    Post # 15
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wish I loved my in-laws, but I’m kinda at the point where I just want to be cordial and friendly, but keep a distance emotionally. Mother-In-Law plays favorites and while she is friendly to me there is a distance there, and I think it’s because I’m just not very much like her, we don’t have much in common. And Father-In-Law is very open/obnoxious with his political opinions, which are the polar opposite of mine. Blatant racism doesn’t help much either, they think it shouldn’t offend me when they mock or say bad things about people who are poor or not white since neither of those applies to me, but since I have normal morals that is not the case, and in those situations I do speak up. So it’s just kinda awkward sometimes =/

    Post # 16
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    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    I can now say confidently that I love them, but this is after we went through a few really hard adjustment years.

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