(Closed) In-laws… Love them or Hate them??

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll:
    I hate my inlaws : (15 votes)
    8 %
    I like my inlaws most of the time : (50 votes)
    27 %
    I LOVE my inlaws : (78 votes)
    43 %
    I don't have contact with my inlaws : (6 votes)
    3 %
    I don't hate them but prefer not to deal with them : (34 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    1175 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I feel so lucky to have such great in-laws!  My Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law never had any girls and while DH’s older brother is married (which means there’s another girl in the family), they live far away.  I’m basically the daughter they never had, which is pretty special to me. 

    Darling Husband loves my family too and they love him.  We met through my younger brother and they are inseparable friends.  Darling Husband said that he is really happy to have my grandparents close by, because he didn’t get to know any of his grandparents very well when he was growing up and now most of them have passed on.

    Post # 18
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    6392 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I big puffy heart love my in-laws. They’re the sweetest people, and his mom and I get along really well! She’s someone I can actually sit down with and chat for a couple hours without Darling Husband even being there. 

    Post # 19
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    1550 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    i answered in the poll. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 20
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    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’m in between like and love.  I appreciate my in-law situation and enjoy the time I spend with them… but, I can’t say that I would have picked them out of a line up as in-laws ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 21
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    37 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I really lucked out, because I know it’s not always the case, but I honestly love them. They make me feel like a part of the family, and I enjoy spending time with them. We definitely have things we fundaamentally disagree on, but none of it comes up at family gatherings so it’s always good to see them.

    Post # 22
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    7429 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I love my in laws, but we don’t speak to my husbands  mother

    Post # 23
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    2580 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I really do love my in-laws. Occasionally they’ll drive me a little crazy, but pretty much in the same way my own parents do when we spend a lot of time together! For the most part we get along great, though, and I really enjoy spending time with them.

    The only thing that can be difficult is that while Mother-In-Law has nothing but the best intentions, she sometimes veers slightly into crazytown with her obsessive worrying over Darling Husband. She is very attached to him and I think in a subconscious way it’s hard for her that she’s not his primary family anymore. I know she likes me and I don’t think she’s actively jealous of me or anything like that, but I do think it’s been a little bit difficult of a transition for her to let go of her baby.

    Post # 24
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    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My inlaws are great – I feel very fortunate.  They are not pushy at all, even though I know they are absolutely dying to become grandparents.

    Post # 25
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    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    My mom always said that her mother-in-law was her best friend and my dad was business partners with his father-in-law, so I grew up not getting the in-law stereotype at all. As an adult, I’ve seen that some of my friends definitely have situations like yours where their in-laws are okay, but definitely say or do annoying things sometimes. I think a lot of it is probably from them soon things differently than the families we grew up with. I lucked out, though, and my in-laws are amazing. They treat me like one of their own kids, and have welcomed me in from the beginning. They, and my own parents, are also careful to tell us that we’re free to make our own decisions, even when they give us advice. As for my sisters-in-law, they are still in HS and 12 and 14 years younger than me. So, our relationship is developing more into a big sister/aunt role rather than being great friends. I think that will happen as they get older though. I guess I lucked out!

    Post # 26
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    11381 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I love them! Esp my mother in law! We talk on the phone usually an hour each time we do. We go over there for dinner every few weeks & myself & her talk more to each other than my husband & she does. lol

    My father in law is great, as well! I just couldn’t spend hours talking to him because.. Well he is a man & sometimes can get on my nerves! LOL I love him nonetheless though!

    Post # 27
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    2259 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    little to no contact category right here….

    they tried to ruin our relationship and gave us nothing when we got married and no excuses were made. 

    I’m really honestly happy others have great relationships with their in laws though! I know it can be a valuable friendship and am happy others can have that going on for them ๐Ÿ™‚ That’s fantastic. 

    Post # 28
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    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I love my inlaws but I’m happy they are 1500 miles away.

    Post # 29
    Member
    727 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    love Future Mother-In-Law…. not a fan of Future Father-In-Law

    Post # 30
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    1369 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I only have a Mother-In-Law and I LOVE her. She’s awesome and very supportive and kept me sane the week of the wedding while my family was driving me nuts.

    Post # 31
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    1932 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2008

    I am happy that there is about 15 states in between us haha!

    They are really nice and love me dearly, but my Mother-In-Law can be a little annoying just because she loves to give advice and her opinion all the time, so she can come off very judging. She also likes to be a part of everything including conversations that don’t include her. That happened a lot while Darling Husband and I were dating, if we were discussing/arguing quietly in private, she would come over to see what the problem was and try to fix it. It drove me nuts. 

    But I am learning to accept that that is just who she is, and she has this huge need to be accepted and loved, so I’m trying to be patient and just not let it get to me. And just kind of nod and mmm-hmm when she gives unsolicited advice. 

    I’m thankful I don’t have crazy in-laws and that they do really love me. 

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