(Closed) In Laws – Told today they are not coming to weddng!!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Megzykid:  im so sorry that sounds awful! i hope everything works out! 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Megzykid:  that is so awful! what kind of people do that to thier son?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you need to give it a couple of days and let everyone calm down a little bit, and then let your Fiance talk to his mom one-on-one and see how she’s feeling. I hope she comes around for HIS sake, and that she realizes that this is important to him.

I am in a rough spot with my inlaws too, and my Fiance kind of feels like he is in the middle, and I’m doing my best to compromise and keep the peace, but it’s hard when I’m being attacked. So I feel your pain.

Good luck to you — and keep us posted.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

They sound toxic.  How is he doing? 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Megzykid:  that is really too bad. Everyone hopes their families will be genuinely happy and supportive but unfortunately it’s not always the case. 

Instead of pointing out the positives (your familiy being welcoming) validate his feelings. That’s what people truly seeking when they are in pain. 

It sounds like his parents have the issue not him. So going in with the expectation that they are never going to be anything other than who they are will help ease the disappointment. They will not ever change. They will always be that way. Expecting them to be anything other than crappy will just keep you both in constant pain.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Megzykid:  How awful.  I know exactly how he’s feeling though.  My mother refuses to talk to me because I was upset with something she was doing.  Now she won’t be coming to my wedding nor was she ever a part of any milestone in my life.  I’m sorry he has to go through this.  I sincerely hope they change their mind.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

I hope that after a couple of days things will calm down with his mom, and she will decide to be by his side on your wedding day. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry.  Hopefully, they come around in a few days.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel so horrid for him.  No one deserves that.  Since it’s something reoccuring, had he considered cutting them out of his life?   I don’t think I have ever suggested that, but what she is doing is emotional abusive.   🙁

I’m glad he has you as his constant and his rock.

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