(Closed) In-Laws Visit – How soon is too soon?

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: When is a visit from the mother-in-law acceptable?

    0-3 months after the wedding

    3-6 months after the wedding

    1 year after the wedding

    1-2 years after the wedding

    Never, HA! But seriously, anytime is fine.

    Never, HA! But seriously, they should never visit.

  • Post # 16
    1141 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think the length of the trip matters more than when the trip is.  I think as long as it is less than a week, even in the first 3 mos. wouldn’t bother me.

    Post # 17
    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My Mother-In-Law was hanging out at the house the day after the wedding!  She refused to sleep there that night though, even though she was taking us to the airport at the crack of dawn the next day.  She also came to stay three weeks after the wedding.

    My parents rarely visit us because they hate to travel. 

    Both sets of parents live 2.5-3.5 hours drive away, so not really close enough for day trips, but not far enough to fly or plan out really long visits.

    Post # 18
    36 posts
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We just got married 2 weeks ago and my in laws came back to california with us (mom, brother, neice, nephew and cousin!) and are staying for about a month with us in our house!  I’ve never heard of the year rule either and don’t quite understand it either.  They are from overseas and all flew here for the wedding – it just made sense for them to stay a while and make a vacation out of it, rather than just fly here for a few days of wedding related stuff. 


    I’m enjoying getting to know them better and I know it’s not going to be very often that we get to see them so I’m happy with it. I know probably not everyone would be though…

    Post # 19
    5592 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’ve never heard any etiquette about that, I think it’s whatever you’re comfortable with.  My future inlaws are planning on staying a weekend with us in August.

    Post # 20
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    At least they ask, my FH’s mom has driven 3.5 hours to come by our house unannounced at 9:30 on a Sunday night.  Needless to say, they are never invited to our house.

    Post # 21
    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I thought this was a joke at first! I’ve never heard of a rule where in-laws had to stay away for a year.

    I do think it’s rude for people to impose themselves on you when you live in a small 1 bedroom apartment. We have people doing that all the time, but mainly b/c it’s so expensive to get a hotel room in NYC. It’s so rude, tehy don’t even ask just assume they will stay with us, take a flight here and show up with bags and don’t even tell us when they plan on leaving! Now that we’re newleyweds we will probably put our feet down and say absolutely no overnight guests until we get a larger place.

    Other than that I would LOVE for my inlaws to come visit! I wish they would!!

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