Post # 1
Darling Husband got married a few weeks ago. We’re struggling so we moved into my sister’s house. My in laws now are demanding a key to the apartment and my husband thinks they should have one. I tried to explain why it would be inappropriate to give a key to my husbands parents when it’s my sisters house.
Am I wrong on this? It seems like it’s crossing a boundary for them to expect to get a key and it seems weird that they’d be able to come and go as they please in my sisters house.
Post # 2
Hell no. Absolutely not. It’s not even your home so it’s not your decision to make anyway. Your sister gets to decide who gets a key to her home. But even if it were your own home, there’s no reason the in-laws need a key.
Post # 3
Absolutely NOT. This would be a terrible infringement on your sister’s right to privacy, as well as your own. And don’t budge on this when you do get a place of your own, either.
Post # 4
echomomm : thank you! The fact that this was even a request honestly weirds me our
Post # 6
Wth what a strange request!!! Hell to the no. So inappropriate for them to even ask!
Post # 7
Not that it matters but I feel like I’m missing something. What reasoning did they give for needing one?
Post # 8
NO!!! It’s not even your house!! NOOOOOO
Post # 9
Holy enmeshment, Batman!
You need to start setting this boundary now.
Post # 10
Did they say why they want one? I have keys to my parents house and vice versa but we also respect each others space and don’t just go in without asking first. Do they have issues with other boundaries?
Post # 11
I missed that it’s not even your place. No that’s weird.
Post # 12
Sorry, but your husband AGREES with your parents? He thinks it’s appropriate to hand over a key to someone else’s home? Umm, he’s just as bad and entitled as they are. You need to explain to all three of them in no uncertain terms that the house does not belong to you, so you can’t provide a key to it. When you move into your own place, you can revisit the conversation then.
Post # 13
Ours live next door . They have a key to our house as it was once their house. When they were in England, we changed the lock to a combination. My father in law asked for the combination as I was going out & he was doing something in our garden. Told him i only knew the pattern and not the number. He can get stuffed. Yours dont need your key either.
Post # 14
missviolet92 : hopefully your husband agreed to not give the number too!
finnegan93 : you’re definitely not wrong on this and I really don’t understand why your husband agrees with them. It’s not your house. How do you know your husband won’t get them a key cut from his set if he is in agreement with them?
Post # 15
They honestly don’t see it being weird to ask for some sister in laws house key? They want to be able to get to someone’s house that is their family or friend? There be happy yo give their key to your parents and siblings?
My parents have the keys to my house. It’s in case I need a spare. It’s never carried by them. It’s always pre arranged if they need the key. Most importantly they didn’t ask for one cause they dont need one and it’s my home, not my boyfriend’s sisters. There are some serious boundary issues.