In Laws Want Key to House

posted 2 weeks ago in Married Life
Post # 2
9806 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Hell no. Absolutely not. It’s not even your home so it’s not your decision to make anyway. Your sister gets to decide who gets a key to her home. But even if it were your own home, there’s no reason the in-laws need a key.

Post # 3
6556 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Absolutely NOT. This would be a terrible infringement on your sister’s right to privacy, as well as your own. And don’t budge on this when you do get a place of your own, either.

Post # 6
1009 posts
Bumble bee

Wth what a strange request!!! Hell to the no. So inappropriate for them to even ask! 

Post # 7
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Not that it matters but I feel like I’m missing something. What reasoning did they give for needing one?

Post # 8
725 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

NO!!! It’s not even your house!! NOOOOOO

Post # 9
3473 posts
Sugar bee

Holy enmeshment, Batman!

You need to start setting this boundary now.

Post # 10
5057 posts
Bee Keeper

Did  they say why they want one? I have keys to my parents house and vice versa but we also respect each others space and don’t just go in without asking first. Do they have issues with other boundaries? 

Post # 11
5057 posts
Bee Keeper

I missed that it’s not even your place.  No that’s weird.  

Post # 12
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Sorry, but your husband AGREES with your parents? He thinks it’s appropriate to hand over a key to someone else’s home? Umm, he’s just as bad and entitled as they are. You need to explain to all three of them in no uncertain terms that the house does not belong to you, so you can’t provide a key to it. When you move into your own place, you can revisit the conversation then. 

Post # 13
2069 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Ours live next door . They have a key to our house as it was once their house. When they were in England, we changed the lock to a combination.  My father in law asked for the combination as I was going out & he was doing something in our garden. Told him i only knew the pattern and not the number.  He can get stuffed. Yours dont need your key either. 

Post # 14
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

missviolet92 :  hopefully your husband agreed to not give the number too! 


finnegan93 :  you’re definitely not wrong on this and I really don’t understand why your husband agrees with them. It’s not your house. How do you know your husband won’t get them a key cut from his set if he is in agreement with them? 

Post # 15
162 posts
Blushing bee

They honestly don’t see it being weird to ask for some sister in laws house key? They want to be able to get to someone’s house that is their family or friend? There be happy yo give their key to your parents and siblings?

My parents have the keys to my house. It’s in case I need a spare. It’s never carried  by them. It’s always pre arranged if they need the key. Most importantly they didn’t ask for one cause they dont need one  and it’s my home, not my boyfriend’s sisters. There are some serious boundary issues.

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